...and possibly premenstrual?
dd1 is in reception and has gross motor problems. The SENCO has also referred her to the EP and the paediatrician because the OT has concerns about her social skills.
Following the OT's recommendation that the school should be doing two exercise sessions with dd per day, they have just put an IEP in place in which they do one session and then try and incorporate some of the activities into other parts of the day. The teacher keeps asking me about what we are doing at home, and quizzing me about whether I am using incentives to get dd1 to do exercises, whether I give up when she is reluctant, etc, which actually I find a bit insulting.
On Friday she did her first session with dd1 and at the end of the day came to me telling me that dd1 had loved doing the exercises and had said, 'I wish I could do exercises at home with mummy and daddy!' I explained to her that a large part of dd1's enthusiasm was to do with getting extra one-to-one attention in school, rather than actual enthusiasm for the exercises. And that she shouldn't take those comments at face value because I do do exercises at home with her and when I raise the idea dd1 may have said she wants to do them but then will say, 'not now... maybe later....'
Anyway, I was already feeling a bit defensive and as though the teacher didn't trust me by this stage. Today dd1 informed me that her conversation with the teacher had actually begun with the teacher asking her whether she did exercises at home, to which she apparently responded that she did not. This will have been largely because I try to disguise the fact that I am getting her to do the OT's exercises, pretending that whatever we're doing is just a lovely game I have devised.
I feel quite angry that the teacher has apparently been quizzing dd1 despite having been told by me and dh that we do stuff with her at home. Am I being unreasonable here? I don't feel that there is mutual trust and respect, and I am wondering whether I should actually say something.