How do you look after your dc's when you are ill?

[Marne]

Riven- you must find it so hard? today i am struggling.

I have had a bad back for 3 weeks and today it got worse, i can't lift dd2 and she doesn't understand and keeps screaming at me. Neither of them can get into the car by themselves and i can't lift them /9it hurts too much), i managed to get my mum to sit with them when i popped to the doctors, i got back and the house is a mess (floor covered in toys, garden covered in toys), soon as i get in mum goes home . So i am now waiting for the pain killers to kick in so i can tidy up. Dh is working until 10pm.

Maybe now dh will see that me sleeping on the sofa with dd2 (and the dog) for the past 3 years is not good for my back and help me look for a bigger house.

Sorry for the rant.

How do you cope when you are ill?

I get the gp to write me a sicknote which I give to SS who send a Nanny - not!

I'm sorry you're having a crap time Marne. Is there any way your dh can take the children away for some of the weekend?

lol Angrywasp, if only .

Dh is working till 10pm tonight and then 8am till 6pm tomorrow (he only does this once a month and its always on a weekend that i could do with him being home).

Dd1 (6) has been trying to help, she has been changing dd2's nappies (which seems funny as dd1 can't even dress herself). The only place i feel comfortable is on the computer chair (which is handy for MN). Dd1 will be going to bed in half an hour then i will have the 3 hour battle of getting dd2 to sleep (i might just let her play until dh gets home).

me
dh helps if he is home, but I have had to look after her with a bad back(and lift her) and when I had food poisening
hope your better soon

Still feeling rough this morning (can hardly walk).

Riven- Dh works part time, most weeks he only does 20 hours but one week a month he does one long shift 9am-9pm followed by a Sat. He doesn't get much holiday and he's saving it for when we go away in May. I can see why you are broke, it must be tough when your dh has to take unpayed leave. I feel guilty as we have to use the girls DLA to pay the rent .

I have tried taking the pain killers that the GP gave me but they are making me feel worse (sick) so i think i will have to put up with the pain so i can look after the dd's, luckily they are keeping themselves busy (even though they are trashing the house) .

I find it very difficult. I have 2 children with autism/dyspraxia and a 6 month old baby with d & v bug. My husband is in Afghan on military ops for 7 months. Life is crap sometimes but I just have to keep going. I have no family nearby and cannot leave my kids with anyone, even for 5 mins, due to their needs. Social Services is a big noooo because they sent round an inexperienced social worker who accused me of Munchausen's Syndrome (!) as my son was still on pureed food (part of his condition, and letters from Gt Ormond St to confirm) so legal action later and complaint upheld in our favour, we have told them to stay the hell away. So, I just go it alone, struggle, but try and remember at least I get to cuddle my kids each night, my hubby doesnt