ADHD and schooling some help please?

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As my ds has got older it's increasingly apparent how very different he is from his cousin/siblings.
I've been nagging dh for ages (years) but he has now seen ed psych and ADHD looks likely however she also commentated on how intelligent he is (don't know IQ yet) but eg reading age is over 3 years greater than actual age.
It is likely his behaviour is secondary to birth/neonatal injury (not sure whether that makes improvement less likely, not sure if affects treatment)

I would really be grateful if anyone could give us some ideas/suggestions/thoughts or point us in the direction of earlier threads. We are concerned about ds schooling since he is being given poor behaviour marks/letters and being sent out almost daily (we are also concerned about an unhelpful label) but I think behaviour is now so disruptive that may be a bigger problem.

when ed psych writes up report, there should be a series of recommendations - make an appointment to see the class teacher and senco to discuss how these will be implemented. (not sure how old ds is). important to get a good start on this asap tbh.

ed psych may recommend developmental assessment - or you could ask gp for paed referral if he doesn't have a paed already due to birth injury issues. medication can be discussed as an option if you are keen to see if it makes a difference (it can be very effective in true adhd, but less so depending on causation (eg brain injury causing adhd-like behaviour rather than standard adhd). do you think a med trial would be useful?

does he already have a behaviour plan if this is an ongoing issue? it should be tweaked in line with the ed psych recommendations if so, if not, then worth asking the senco to draw one up with the class teacher in any case - the school should be keen to prevent the situation worsening.

the iq thing is a bit of a red herring tbh - unless the ed psych is suggesting he is acting up because he is bored. (i have known adhd kids put into the bottom set because they have trouble concentrating, when they are more than capable of top set work - but disrupt the top set, so keep getting moved down until there is nowhere for them to go - can be v difficult - so very important to work with the school re behaviour plan).