not sure what to do

[iwastooearlytobeayummymummy]

hi
Yesterday an ex-neighbour called me as she is really struggling with her SN son, as he home for the hols from his school.
He's normally a weekly boarder and has found the hols very long
i don't know either of them very well but have offered to have him over on Thursday to give mum and his gran a break for a few hours.
he's 10 and has a diagnosis of non specific developmental delay and i think ADHD.
He is a very lively lad,and always asks me loads of questions if I meet him when i'm out and about. But very agressive, both physically and verbally to his mum and gran
Can i ask for any suggestions on things to do? my children are all older so will be able to accept/understand his behaviour but i just need a few ideas/pointers as I have no experience of SEN
thanks

I would find out the things he likes to do. Does he need a quiet time for a few minutes at a time?
Are there any foods he likes to eat/can not eat?
Maybe he could bring something from home, such as a favourite toy, or comfort object.
What does he need to do when he feels overwhelmed, to help him cope?
I bet he has a great time with all your dc to keep him occupied and happy.
P.S. You are a lovely neighbour, can I move in next door to you?

thanks for the ponters, feel a bit silly really as what you've said is common sense

Aw that's nice. Be aware that he and his mum might be anxious about the visit so don't overwhelm him with lots of activities, let him settle in quietly to begin with but have things on standby. His mum will be anxious that he behaves, and some of that will rub off on him.

Perhaps you can ask him yourself so that he feels he has some control over the situation.

thanks Angry, i hadn't thought of the 'rub of bit' either.
If the weather is good i sort of thought walking the dog to local play ground but i'll check with mum beforehand