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Incident in park today....why is it always DS2!

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5inthebed · 09/04/2010 21:20

Today we were at a farm that had a park in it. DS2 (4) loves parks, so we spent most of the day there while his brothers looked at animals. There was a twisted enclosed slide (like a supertube) and DS2 hates going down these, but he was happily sitting at the top, waiting for other children to get ready to go down, and then giving them a push to get them going. Most of the children were fine with this, thought it was fun. I was supervising him the whole time, so the children who didn't want him to do it, I told him not to, and he was fine with that.

This one boy (maybe 5/6ish) allowed him to do it, but either DS2 pushed him awkwardly or the little boy came out the other end too fast and ended up a crumpled heap on the floor. Obviously he went crying to his mam, saying "it was that boy there who did it" and pointing at DS2. I felt awful at this point, had to coax DS2 down, which took a good 5 minutes, with the other child still crying right next to me, sobbing and pointing "it was him, it was him". When I eventually got him down, I apologised to the mam, and explained what DS2 was doing and said that her son had come out at the bottom and onto the hard park floor.

I hate having to do this, find I get so flabergasted and red, near tears, and probably made that poor lady feel quite uncomfortable. Short of saying "he has autism, he doesn't quite play the same as other kids" what else is there to do? I'm just waiting for that one parent to tell me that he shouldn't be allowed to play in a park if that is the way he is.

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5inthebed · 09/04/2010 21:29

Sorry, "Why is it always DS2", I don't mean people are picking on him, I mean that out of all my three children, it is always him when we are out and about.

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lisad123wantsherquoteinDM · 09/04/2010 22:57

ah i wouldnt have bothered tbh, the boy was older than him and allowed him to do it, it was an accident and not done in spite. I would have said, im sorry, maybe next time tell him you dont want him to push, and told him to suck it up

CirrhosisByTheSea · 09/04/2010 23:39

Aww - I can understand how you feel but if this had been my son and I'd had a nice mum come up and apologised etc I would have been utterly fine with it. Your DS wasn't doing anything remotely wrong and you were being a great mum and supervising closely. You couldn't have done more and don't forget it's a playground, tumbles and tears happen!

5inthebed · 10/04/2010 11:36

I don't know why, but it bother me more when DS2 is involved. Had it been DS1, then I know he would have apologised for himself, and DS3 is too young to be runnin around a park anyway.

I guess I just don't want people to thing he is a naughty boy, or that I'm a bad parent for allowing him to do this.

It sucks. I hate the school holidays and now I'm dreading next week as DH back at work.

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