Posting this again as I thought I may get more replys/advice on this board.
My 6 yr old ds1 has behaviour problems(not yet known wether underlying problem exsists-under paed) and has good weeks and bad weeks, its like a rollercoaster-he'll have a reasonably good few days, then he'll have a run of horrendous days where you cant do anything with him.
He doesnt respond to sticker charts or anything along that line and time out seems to have limited effect.
He was at home with me yesterday as dp at work and ds2 nursery. he was fairly good all day, until I realised he had scratched the LCD screen on the tv-not a bit, but all over big deep scratches. Im pulling me hair out about him, He must have thought about doing it, sneaked in the kitchen and got a knife or similar and then did it-its not like there was something by the tv that he just picked up and used, it was premeditated.
I could sort of understand it if we had had a arguement/disagreement, but as I say there was no reason for him to act like this.
He wont talk to us about why he did it and shows no remorse either.
what would be a suitable punishment for this in your opinion?
Other things that concern me about ds-
DS1 finds it difficult to queue or line up. Although he has just recently started to after nrly 2 yrs at school, a big improvement but often still have problems, will either go in reception or ends up being dragged into class by myself/teachers.
DS1 doesn?t appear to understand social boundaries/interaction. He doesn?t understand how to approach other children individually and in groups and will run up into other peoples faces or barge.
DS1 likes to be undressed and getting dressed is a big issue in our house
DS1 likes touching and will touch anything, he will pick up anything and everything when we are out
DS1 has to have a pillowcase with ?zigzags? if you put one on that doesn?t, he goes into meltdown
DS1 is provocative with other children at school and at home with sibling
DS1 doesn?t cope well with teasing and will erupt into meltdown and hysteria when pushed/teased
DS1 does inappropriate things-touching unknown substance on pavement then putting fingers in mouth
DS1 loves spinning the faster/higher the better
DS1 seems more unaware than children of his age of danger-escalator incident, repeatedly jumping over 12ft wall
DS1 is an escapee and will bolt if doors are unlocked or if the garden gate has been accidentally unscrewed
DS1 cant talk quietly, he shouts everything from the moment he wakes til he goes to bed
Ds1 needs constant reminders about personal hygiene, will not flush toilet or wash hands unless prompted
DS1 loves water and will seek out any opportunity to play in it from streams, the sea, the bath, puddles, birdbaths etc
DS1 cant sit still and will tap, bang an object, shake his leg etc when sitting
Still appears to be ambidextrous
Goes to the toilet whenever we go into a shop/supermarket. If he has just been and we say no, you don?t need to go, he has a meltdown.
From approx 2yr old had odd interest in cars/recognising cars that family/friends had, even if different colour but same make, these were not obvious cars like mini/landrover and he couldn?t read at the time. This seems to have disappeared now.
On bad days DS1 is overly emotionally sensitive-will cry at almost anything eg being told no.
Will steal food, had a loft bed which had to be replaced as was stealing food and hiding it in his bed. Will steal food off brothers plate if were not watching closely enough. Will not stop eating, which consequently leads to meltdowns when told no/no more.
Is frequently destructive/will vandalise often for no obvious reason.
Will empty anything left in the bathroom-dispensible soap, shampoos, makeup, toothpaste etc
Will lie about anything and everything.
Used to take stuff from school, mostly girls stuff, hairclips, necklaces plastic earrings. This seems to have now stopped.
Doesn?t cope well with large busy enclosed spaces-cant take to big tesco where we live, ends up having to be escorted back to the car due to tantrums/behaviour.
Has no stranger danger concept, would go to anybody as a baby, will talk to anyone and everyone now.
Probably more than that, but those are the things that come to mind at the moment.
Anybody else have a child this age like this-how do you cope?
Anyone with any advice/comments?
Sorry its so long