have had to put up with my mother for three days and she thinks she has helped me. She has infact drove me mad. She had the nerve the tell me how nice it felt that she had helped me this weekend. The help was a half an hour walk to the spar shop with the children to fetch herself some food
honestly I am pulling my hair out. i feel like the thread the other week that i am completely negative about everything to try and get her to understand. She just treats her whole visit like a holiday and tries and suceeds most the time to cause trouble between me and my husband.
She wont babysit, she has to go out herself on the razzle when she is here. We have to all go out for meals together and i have to run around after the kids and be strict with themn as otherwise she says people are looking at us. DD has actually been good this weekend and so has ds, but she says they are 'no trouble' she has even been telling people who I know well that dd is 'ok' and 'is coming on well'. i said to her, why are you telling people she is coming on fine when she has significant delays and problems?
i think today was an eyeopener as we dropped dd off at the SN playgroup. She insisted on coming with me and I thought ok, but it is overwhelming (anyone will know who's child goes to an SN school) She looked a bit horrified, well not horrified but shocked. then when we left, bearing in mind I felt a bit uneasy l;eaving dd as she is so young and its a new thing. She said some of those children are 'scarey' I said look mum they go to her school, she isnt bothered and dd will be like that i know she is little now but she is going to grow into one of those children
It really took it out of me. i got home with her and started ranting about how dd will never leave home and tbh i feel like going into the back yard and screaming
apart from that she wont babysiy at all, she stays in our house and knowing all the problems we are having is it too much trouble to ask her to sitbfor a few hours 'early on in the evening' so we can go out as a couple? Last time she was here she offered to babysit and didnt appear until 10pm, we eneded up arguing and i am just so fed up if it
Everytime i approach her about it, she says I know I had it with your sister, difference was she got lots and lots of family help. I dont think she even realises how little help she gives me.
She constantly moans about my dad, who hatres my guts and i am just feeling really resentful about everything
effin bloody b**llox