I have someone coming to the house to talk about dd2's sleep problems but....

[Marne]

I feel her sleep problems are not that bad compared to most, will it be a waist of time?

Dd2's main problem is getting to sleep, it can take up to 3 hours for her to settle and then she wakes once in the night and is then wide awake by 5.30am-6am. She has been on melatonin for a few moths, when i give it to her she falls asleep withing 30 mins but will then wake 2 or 3 times in the night so we rarely use it. I think the reason why she can't settle is because she sleeps in the living room where all her toys are (and the TV) so she can't switch off. We are doing all we can to get a bigger house but until then we can't really do a lot to help dd2 .

So i have to go through all of this with the sleep lady (cerebra) and it upsets me as i feel i should be able to provide my dd's with their own bedrooms/space and i don't think there will be much she can do to help dd2 .

She's coming in half an hour and i feel like i'm wasting her time.

Could her writing a report be helpful in the bigger house search?

Hi Marne,
Try not to worry, my 2.7 dd sleeps in a room all by herself and has the same sleep (non-sleep) patterns as your dd. We have tried the melatonin but she still wakes during the night. Could you ask about the slow release form?

You are not wasting her time, if your dd sleeps better everybody benefits.

Good luck!

DD1 has a very similar sleep pattern & slept in her own room until recently (now shares with DD2). Melatonin gets her off to sleep within a few minutes, but she wakes every night.

Thanks,

Well she kind of told us what we already knew, dd2 needs her own room and she thinks dh and i should let her have our room and we should buy a sofa bed for us down stairs. She also told us 'no TV after 6pm' so no tv before bed. She seemed to think me sleeping in the same room/being in the room when she goes to sleep is not helping as she needs to fall asleep on her own.

I know dd2 needs to have her own room but i feel anxious about both dd's sleeping upstairs and us down stairs, i worry one of them will wake or be ill and i wont hear them.

Leonie- thats what dh suggested ,he thinks we should get a monitor with a camera. I think we are going to wait a couple of weeks to see if a house comes up and if not then we will move out of our bedroom and let dd have it.

I think she needs a box room (small with nothing in it other than her bed). If we put her in what is now our room it will still have all our junk in it as we have no where else to put it, she is likely to rummage through all the junk rather than sleep. I will have a look at monitors, if she does go into her own room i think we will need one and a stair gate on her door.