Has your sn child ever got you into trouble?

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On Tuesday in the school playground before school a parent was telling her kid off and he was crying (this little boy is one of the few who is kind to ds and ds likes him and he has been to our house a few times)

When the bell rang and the kids lined up the little boy stood in the line and was still crying (i usually speak to his mum and she has told me previously that other kids pick on him and he doesnt want to come to school etc) So i asked her 'is he ok'. She replies 'yes, he is just being a little sod this morning.

Anyhow this morning mum asks me if she 'can have a word with me' apparently yesterday ds had approached her and said 'my mum said what you did to x was abuse'

I was gobsmacked, it is not something that he has overheard as i didnt speak about it to anyone, it was just a mum in a playground telling her kid off, nothing unusual about it.

I apologised to the mum and assured her that it was not something that i had said or that he had overheard. I generally dont speak to any other mums, other than good morning and keep myself to myself.

And the fact that i asked her whether her ds was ok, makes ds's story look even more feasible!

I had no idea that ds even knew the word 'abuse' let alone be able to use it in the right context.

Oh dear, but hopefully the other Mum will understand.

It's not just SN children who do this either. Dd's best friend has taken to repeat the wise sayings of her father to dd...and I would be very surprised if her father actually said those exact words in that context: "My Dad says that school bag you have is really chavvy. My Dad says you're not really ill, you're just pretending" (dd misses a lot of time off school due to chronic health problems). Bf is 12, so should be too old for those things- but at least I have more sense than to hold them against her Dad. I can imagine how she has just taken something he said quite innocently and twisted it out of context to hurt dd, teens being the charming creatures they are.

not meaning of course that your ds did this with any ill intention; he has no doubt been using you to cover up his own feelings of unease

Cory, no worries i have 3 teens myself and know just how charming they can be!

I asked ds when i picked him up from school 'did you tell x's mum that i said what she did was abuse'

Ds - Yes, i told her my mum says that is abuse'

Me - I didnt say it was abuse.

Ds - I know you didnt say it, but thats what you think. You dont like it when people make me cry, do you?

Me - Do you know what abuse means.

Ds - Its when someone does something to you that you dont like and you dont want them to do it and x didnt like his mum shouting at him, he was crying.

There was some logic in there somewhere!

Kids eh

Mine tells off people who park inappropriately, smoke in the wrong place or drop litter.
However scary, aggressive or antisocial they are.
So far they've been too stunned at his folly to do anything.