Ds had a check up with the dentist this morning, he has to see the Community dentist because he is orally defensive and has to have any work done under GA. About 6 months he had to have 4 teeth removed under GA because of decay. (no sensory dentist in my area)
Ds's diet is extremely limited, he will only eat sweet things and getting ds to drink anything at all is a big problem. He also grinds his teeth terribly and brushing his teeth is such a performance, he screams, refuses to open his mouth etc, so brushing is limited.
Dentist has made me feel like a terrible parent and as if i am neglecting ds. He gives me the same lecture everytime we visit.
'You do know that your ds's poor diet, drinks and not brushing, is going to cause further tooth decay'
'Yes i am aware of what causes tooth decay'
'You need to cut out all the sweet things from his diet and get him to drink water or milk'
'sweet things are the only thing that ds eats if i cut them out there would be nothing left and he refuses to drink water or milk'
'You need to continuing trying'
'I am, ds is under dietitian, feeding clinic, OT and i am following their advice'
(hands me a leaflet detailing which foods are the best to eat) 'Make an effort to get him to eat things from that list and only let him drink water or milk and start using an adult toothpaste'
'I have tried using adult toothpastes and the flavour is too strong for ds to tolerate'
'You need to follow my advice if you want to prevent further tooth decay'
He is really getting on my nerves.
I feel like putting my fingers in my ears and singing la, la, la, la whenever he talks.
How would you deal with him?