CAMHS visit, EP report, school - need a moan please

[starfish71]

Me and DS2 had our 2nd visit to CAMHS yesterday. It was not as bad as the 1st one - lots more questions, DS2 was quite happy - ate a box of raisins and a choc muffin and looked quite at home! Have another visit booked for after easter then hopefully it will be 3di and ADOS.

It has been a very hard couple of weeks though. School have suddenly started to talk more about how far behind he is with his work, how his 'autisticky' traits (his teacher's word!) are coming out more and how he is finding it more difficult to concentrate on 'focus taks'. His teacher also said - second time he has said this - how fascinating it was to watch him in assembly!!! I was not impressed - he is my son not a guinea pig to be watched and be fascinated by - if he says it again am going to be very tempted to stamp on his toes!

The panel are meeting on 22nd to decide if they approve DS1 and DS2 to have staturtory
assessments.

I have also had EP report for DS2 and it was upsetting seeing his difficulties in black and white - made me ill if I am honest. Have always thought that I want DS2 to stay in mainstream and make the school provide the support but am now allowing myself to think that maybe a smaller special school may not be such a bad thing after all.

Been a real rollercoaster this week and have wanted to just stay in bed and not do anything but it is passing and I am feeling a bit more positive today - just hope I don't have to appeal to get the assessments done.

Thanks - needed to just put it all down x

hiya, my ds seeing ep 13 april, after a struggle to get the head to arrange it, anyway i can imagine how upsetting the report must be, when i read ds's salt reports every 3 months, i cry and cry for about a week, not becauase i didnt know about his difficulties but because seeing someone else's opinion in writing birngs home the fact that it is actually happening and its not in your head. I visitd a sn school on wed, i told the head my reason for visiting ad she was fine, i went to compare ds to the other children hoping i would come out knowing that ds wasnt that bad and would be fine in ms and no where needing to go to sn school, god, well i came out crying cos though complete opposite, he does need to go there, i had this impression in my mind that sn school was for kids severley disabled and they couldnt speak and feed them selves but this school, complete opposite just like a normal primary school just smaller classes, more teachers and a really friendly feeling. It did me the world of good going there and might also help you too. good luck with the statementing, are you having both dc assessed, that must be very stressful for you x

Thank you pokhara - yes I think I will visit a couple of sn schools soon to get a feel of the place and as you said to see how my ds would 'fit in'. Yes both my DS's are going to panel to see if they will assess them. DS1 I know is going to be more difficult to get him assessed (Dyspraxia and social communication difficulties - under assessement for ASD). I am really hoping that I won't have to go to appeal for DS2 though - it is very obvious he needs alot of support.

Am very glad it is Friday! x