We had open clinic booked with soemone at ds3's SNU today but the Psych was sick so they sent ion someone who normally deals with MS, and she said we could chat about ds1.
So we did. After my nervous breakdown yesterday (thread in chat) or rather admission to one, we went through everything said, from his time in nursery where he was proved to be bright, to the no records so no extra help, throuhg aggression (and I showed her my current cuts for evidence), him beating up ds3 and the fact they have had to divide off playground areas to cope, no invovled professionals at all, his eating disorders, Head pulling all school funding except statement allcoated and advising aprents go private for help, the fact that ds1's slow provessing but hjigh ability has beend ealt with by putting him down in classes as teahcers wanted to wipe white boards faster and share TA time leaving him feeling he is thick, SENCO at last school bumping up SATs from bottom to middle level as 'he could do it really', the real reason for another child being scared to go in to school being ds1's threat to kill him (she is working with the other child but hd not been told this even though other lad, gorgeous kid, broke down at his IEP and said please stop X from killing me), an incident a year ago where he tried to poison another child, ds1 having money extorted from him in return for friendships and then school unable to make link getween that and the lost dinner money we ended up paying twice over.... the shole shitty lot (she suggested I write a book LOL)
She is atking it to her manager, school told LEA they would seek advice from her and haven't so she is looking to find a way in by asking LEA to push it as we have an upcoming statement review (was delayed due to lack of paperwork last time), we also told her that school said it wasn't worth talking to LEA becuase they knew what teh advisors would say and also that they told LEA rep outright that there was no point going through them as they are useless so they just suggest dyuscoivery centre.
We worked out what dyscoivery woulod cost for our 23 in the school: approx £6k.
Could be an interesting time, plus she is sorting a health referral to the specialist eating disorders unit that nobody told us about and is under a mile away from us and has an adolescent unit.