AIBU to think people are jealous of us?

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because we can park in disabled bays, we have laws to protect our children from discrimination(ok don't lol) and we get shiney new cars.

It's amazing to me how 'disabled' able parents feel about managing their own children, and walking or waiting or coping for a while.
I feel that they failed to consider the ordinary demands of parenting and whether they'd be up to handling two children and the shopping without intensive support at multiple levels.
My Grandmother would be incandescent at the nonsense. Dead a decade, but I can hear her 'Harrumph!' in my ear as I type.

Goblinchild - I am hoping I have misunderstood the meaning of your post!

I have come across this attitude in a milder form - that I'm lucky to have DS1 in such a small class with such a high level of support - but it's not luck, he needs support. If one of the commenters developed an illness, would I go on and on about how lucky they are that the doctor has magnanimously agreed to see them ! or say , "How lucky the doctor didn't just shoot you, I would !"

Would replacing 'disabled' with unable or incapable make the post clearer?

i got you and what you meant

Thank God for that. I hate offending people unintentionally. Now, intentionally, that's a different matter.

oh just flash the blue badge at them lol

Don't get me started on badges!! Husband has blue badge and have lost count of times people when challenged parking in bays have said 'oh I was just.....'

There is NO just....

Then you get the people arguing there are too many disabled bays....

Can be quite fun though when people argue with us, as distracting him from conciously thinking about staying upright means he is likely to fall over, and that usually makes the point!!

Don't have one, or DLA. Doesn't stop me womaning the barricades.
Boy just did an overnight hike with the scouts; 15 miles then camping and 10 miles the next day.
He'd be quite good on the Disabled parking bit though. It's a rule you see, so when people break the rule, it's a Bad Thing. I've known grown men put out fags and move off when he points out that they're doing a Bad Thing.

I am often getting the 'you are so lucky having babysitters (respite carers) so you and your DH can get out for the evening. We never get out - whinge, whine, grumble...'

What? Lucky to have to have a babysitter for a 13-year-old who will need babysitting for the rest of his life? Not that bloody lucky

Of COURSE I always wanted my child to be incapable of an independent life, to never drive, marry, to worry every day...
cos that DLA just makes up for it all....

note fractionally sarcastic tone

well i get none of those, but heard enough from SGK to agree with you

You could slap me across the face with a pair of John Barrowman's favourite party pants and I would still be less surprised at the constant gall of the average and ignorant able bodied, often sadly male, drivers of this world. I went for a hydrotherapy appointment this week and said baffoon was parked in a very clearly marked disabled parking bay as "it was the only one left and I'll only be a half an hour" WTF???? What he meant was, it was the only one near the main entrance - lazy f##ker.

Luckily, the hospital where I go has a sh1t hot parking attendant who will shoot you if you p133 him off and break the rules. He told baffoon in parking bay, move it now or I'll have it removed for you and you don't want that. I think he used his best cross face too!!! Said baffoon uttered some expletives and drove off!!

I just don't see why, if Dh and I can cope (I can#t without him) then opthers can't without the Sn issues to boot?

Eitehr I am super woman, and trust me the evidence is claer I am not, then WTF?

But someone on another thread listed examples of abuse someonme suffed and counted having 2 sn siblings within that, and someone told me last week they would have stopped at ds1 as having a Sn sibling is something that you 'inflict' on people so i think its all just another example of putting Sn loinked famillies in their box because if you don;t have to loo you don;t have to acknowledge that it might just be you.

so lucky i have had to give up well paid job , split with partner lost house due to not being able to afford mort on my own, so lucky that im stressed all the time and that i have never had a full nights sleep, so lucky to get the dla and extra tax credits, cos that is much better than having a ds with no probs at all.
I sacked a mate last year cos she was clearly jealous that i got more money than her (dla), she got no reason not to get a bloody job.
i am lucky to have a wonderful gorgeous son who amazes me (and drives me to insanity) and he wouldnt be my son if he didnt have his problems, god getting weepy here, I LOVE MY SON

Goblinchild - yes, it does. Thanks. Totally misread the meaning there.

Even my inlaws are jealous because dd gets DLA and has a Motability car. SIL helpfully looked at the rules for having a Motability car and found you can have 2 named drivers. Then BIL wanted me to add him as a named driver so they could use the car too... not for dd's benefit. I said no, (BIL has only recently got his licence back afgter being banned for drink driving FGS) so they have sulked and made pointed comments about how unreliable their car is ever since.

The upshot of it all is, I'm "lazy" because I have nerve damage (and now possibly a neurological condition) and can't work at the moment, and Dd "isn't THAT bad". Because they give heart meds, glasses, wheelchair, Piedro's, splints... etc. etc. to anyone that asks for them.
Fortunately, our specialists don't share that attitude.