ex wont accept diagnosis

[kittycat68]

my ex wont excpt our sons diagnois of aspergers and has gone around telling the school and lea that i have only had him diagonsed because i want cusdody at court! i was granted this several years ago! i dont know how to get him to accept his diagnosis as this child has had problems since being little and we are being stamented now on my third attempt! he is arguing that the report is wrong help or suggestions please

Hi Kittycat68. Our son was originally diagnosed with Aspergers when he had just turned 3.He is now 5 and a half.My husband was devastated.I don't think he has ever told anyone,it has always been me.I suspected that there was something not right for years,and my DH had always said it was me,not our son with the problem.I think he felt very guilty,and afraid for our son.The diagnosis really helped us,along with the staff at the paediatric clinic who were so supportive.We started doing things diferently,took some of the pressure off in other areas,like food and eating,and we have a completely different boy.
My husband is still convinced that he is just quirky and will grow out of it,as long as he supports him,I don't care,and he is a great dad and partner.I wouldn't say it is unusual for someone to react this way-in denial-but as you are separated/divorced it is perhaps being used as a weapon.Are the lines of communication open between you both? Could you have a face to face talk? I presume you have all the reports etc,so he can hardly deny it.Maybe he needs some support and reassurance? Your DS is still the little boy he always was.Just needs some extra support etc.Good luck,Woopsi.

You have reports and dx to back you up, they cant all be wrong. So try not to worry too much about what he says on that side of things.

Could you include him in meetings with professionals and school, give him copies of everything you have.

You could also have a word with your GP, perhaps she/he could have a chat with your ex or somewhere like CAMHS might be able to help.

Could you make an appointment with the Paed who gave dx, so your ex could ask questions, perhaps once he hears from a 'expert' he might be more accepting.