Worries

[eidsvold]

I have just been thinking over the past few days.. I seem to take the serious stuff in my stride re dd and her condition/heart defect yet it is the little things that worry me. This is hard to explain...
I hope you understand what I mean.... injuries at home, dh throwing her up in the air and catching her... choking on food that is too lumpy - even though I want her to try lumpy food...

Am I just strange?!?!

eidsvold, you sound quite normal to me - it's the difference between the stuff you can't do anything about, and the avoidable things.

Your dd's health is part of normal life for you so you just live with it - the injuries/choking/potential dropping is the same for every parent (why do dads insist on throwing babies about BTW? My DH terrified our DD1 - and me - when she was a few months old and England scored in a World Cup game. He threw her in the air and ROARED - she was hysterical, poor lamb!) so that's what we worry about.

If you got in a state about her health you wouldn't be able to deal with it at all, let alone as well as you obviously do - you need to be calm and in control in order to do the best for her, and you do. You are a wonderful mummy!

oh eidsvold you are soo normal. All the moms I know worry over little things aswell and the lumpy food thing I have always had problems with. I always started to panic if mine gagged on food, I thought I was the only one but I think most mums do worry about this.

It is good that you take serious things in your stride-sometimes I wish I could be less emotional about my dd's problems.

Like janh said you sound like a lovely mum
and ps I found the free registration for WW in the mail today (unluckily for dh there was no free cd!) and I will be going to my first meet on tuesday-if Im brave enough

I think we worry about the little things so we can take the big things on our stride. Like a diversion tactic. We have to focus our worries on the smaller things or else the bigger things overwhelm us and we can't cope.

Eidsvold, all these explanations sound spot on to me and we all worry about lumpy food, choking etc etc - look at the evidence on this site! Men do seem to be rougher with small children and it wound me up when ds was small too...