adhd

[gina84uk]

hi my ds3 was at the doc's today said he had mid-mod adhd,but i have alway's known that somthing was wrong and i was just wondering how i can tell him off with out him feeling like iam always shouting at him.
he need's a phsyc apointment to confirm but i know what they will say anyway
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Hi Gina, firstly, are there any parenting courses etc that you can access once the dx is confirmed, particularly for parents who have children with adhd? Secondly are you considering medication for ds3 - perhaps he is already on something?

One bit of advice I have been given is 'pick your battles' and believe it or not it's one of the most important ones for me.

Prepare him for changes, do a countdown if necessary. Do a schedule if necessary create solid structured environment. Be mindful of how he behaves in crowds - it is too stressful, stuff like that. Be consistent, one warning and then carry out punishment (be it taking away a toy something like that). Don't enter into dialogue with him. Be realistic.

I find it extremely hard work at times, ds2 is constantly on the go, very demanding. It's really hard work - read about ADHD and what exactly it is and how it affects the child if you haven't already. See the child behind the behaviour x

with regard to telling him off try to ignore the little things and praise the good behaviour no matter how small,structure is important and try to do simple instructions if you want him to do something, if you tell him 2 or 3 things to do he will most likely forget what you've asked.