hi posted yesterday, about ds school, and was seeing the head teacher today, this is how it went, took my friend for support and as she has been through statement process. firstly she said she had a copy of salt report and letter from paed and portex,in a folder on the table besdie her, she then asked which school i had put ds in for, so told her my 2 choices, she then said well nearer the time we will do a transfer to them, let them know of any prblems owen has etc and if they saw any problems he encountered in the 1 st year there they might decide to do something. so i asked her well why only that when his Salt report from jan says ds is on 1st centile aged 2 year 4 months (ds 4 next month), making him 20 months delayed in laguage, she was shocked and said who told you that i said the salt and its in the report, she asked me to show her, so i did, well she didnt know what to say, i mean she obviously does not read anything sent to her to do with ds. i explained that 2 years ago he was 12-18months dlayed, and 2 years on the gap had not closed it had widened and in light of this ds needs a statement for ms or sn.
well she then went on to say, ds is avery happy little boy who loves the other children and interacts with them very well, like beng in groups and has lots of friends in nursery and due o this she couldnt see that he needs a statement, she also added that for someone of is age to get a statement he woul need to be at 18 month old level. she said she would find it very difficult to put the evidence together to support a statement, as the lea would see that ds would be happyand socialise in ms without statement. I AM SO ANYRY AT HIS POINT BECAUSE I KNOW HE IS VERY SOCIALBLE ON HI OWN TERMS THAT IS BUT HE IS NOT LEARNING AT THE SAME RATE AS THE OTHER CHILDREN. he needs extra help so that he doesnt fall further behind and that gap closes. but apparently lea are only interested in the social side of thing. WTF............ my friend butted in and said so when he a 7 year old boy who is clearly behind every one else, his behaviour problems have gotten worse that when they might do something. In my opinion they have known for 2 years something wasnt right they sent programmes into nursery, ok he has learnt but i still 20 months behind.
she has arranged a meeting on 24th march for paed, salt her hv and me to discuss owen further at paed request, she said that she will see after that meeting if she should get ed phy in to assess him, friend told her she should be doing it now.
basically she also said i dont hear him name that often so he cant be that bad in terms of strugglng, then later contradicted herself by saying, he is boisterious and challenging and the teachers have said he has difficulties, and recommened that i dont bring him in early when coming to school come just on time so he doesnt have to wait with the other children and get hyper.
sorry this is soooooooo long, but god, does a child get left to cope for fucking years before someone fucking does something.
spoke to lea, very nice lady who also advised my, doubtful he will get statement as they have too many people in area with one!!!!!!!!!!! and that 2 terms worth of evidence would be needed. he has only been there since oct!!!!!!!! she also said they do something called individual pupil funding agreement which is like a statement but only takes about 6 weeks to do so could get it in by end of may and that doesnt need as much assessing as statment. i asked difference between this and iep she said iep school funded and this is lea funded and they can also name a school..
2 years wasted i feel of assessing him to be told see what he like in ms school, i know he will be fine makes friends so easily and is outgoing but, ths is not going to close the 20 month gap is it, and if the same pattern follows as has in 2 years then he will become more delayed.
IM FURIOUS, UPSET ANGRY and feel like forgetting he has any problems cos this is driving me insane and making me ill