Will I ever get better at dealing with dd?

[OverflowingMum]

aaarrrrggghhhh have just shouted at dd3 again....
Will I ever get better at dealing with her? For a few days after her dx (Aspergers) last week, I seemed to deal so much better with her....now today it has been one melt down after another from her, total defiance, agression to her sisters...her being too hot/too cold,her siblings being too loud (which she screamed at me repeatedly)etc......
Oh God, it's so hard coping with her with 5 others as well.
And DS2 is just in that really frustrating almost 2 yr old phase.....
And I'm just sooooo tired.....and now all I can see is me trying, and failing miserably, to cope with and be a good Mum to DD3, whilst seeing that the other 5 get what they need from me....
And after half term I have the whole school thing to deal with, and the huge battle that that will no doubt turn into to try to sort out the dismal failure that her education seems to have been so far....

Sometimes I would just like for things to be simple, just for a day!

Sorry, just needed to vent!

It is sooo hard sometimes. I find it hard enough with one kid - don't think you're crap just because it gets too much sometimes! Hope things calm down. x

thanks givememoresleep
yesterday was a bad day....
today hasn't started much better...on about melt down 30 from her now....still, taking deep breaths and keeping calm....so far

I find that school holidays can go from one extreme to the other. Sometimes they go well because the stress of coping with school has gone. Other times they're absolute hell because no-one could possibly keep the exact same routine every day in the way that school does.

I hope today brings you at least a little bit of meltdown-free time.

It's hard and you're only human.

I yelled at DS1 half an hour ago because he's been impossible all afternoon, I'm feeling a bit under the weather and my head's pounding and he only goes and yells "no!" when I tell him it's time to go to the bathroom to get cleaned up, after dinner, and wipes his filthy yoghurty face and hands all over the sofa.

Constant re-direction, reminders and oh so subtle positive re-inforcement (because overt praise can cause DS1 to really explode) are hard to keep up, specially when the behaviour is so persistent, despite your best efforts. As someone pointed out in a group of good friends of mine, earlier today, few people would hang around if their spouse or partner subjected them to this sort of behaviour. When our kids are doing it, it's not like we can even leave them in the house while we go for a walk to clear our heads. It's flippin' stressful.