I started out taking him to the HV at 18 months because his speech was so far behind everything else. They wouldn't refer until 3, so he was referred then. SALT referred him on, as she felt he had sensory processing issues, and I agreed.
He had a ridiculous and crap MDT in that area (where the doctor assumed he had something chromosonally wrong due to his blondness and told me he "looked very different." He doesn't.)Tests showed nothing. OT there prescribed sensory diet and on we went. Anyway, we then moved areas, in part so that he gets another year of nursery (dates are different in NI) and he has had a new MDT, where this provisional DX occured.
I do need help, I am struggling. He needs sunglasses because his eyes itch and swell and irritate him in bright light. He has auditory and oral issues, and there is the speech (he does not have Glue Ear and is not deaf, they did remove his adenoids though.)
Currently he sleeps 11 - 7.30 with 2 or 3 up times, and that is draining because between 7.30 (bedtime) and 11 he wrecks his room (not maliciously, he's bored I think) and annoys his siblings. Has 2 or 3 amazing tantrums a day, and he has dangerous behaviours, like road danger and hurting his siblings.
He is making friends though, and doing really well in the nursery setting. He's the oldest in the group for the first time, I think that is helping him. He is very bright, very visually oriented (so able to do challenging puzzles etc.)
Some things do seem ASD - we need a schedule and visual prompts. But other things are so not.
Argh, essentially. And I know that his difficulties are mild, and that he will eventually learn the rules!