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SN children

Here are some suggested organisations that offer expert advice on special needs.

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some people have no idea......

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SparklyGothKat · 09/02/2010 16:12

Playground mafia were in top form today. Apparently its 'disgusting' that all these people are on benifits and 'if they have a child with something wrong with them, they then claim more' All said loud enough for the whole playground to hear. ADHD doesn't exist according to snotty cow. I was fuming, shouted that they could have the money... but they didn't hear me (or ignored me)

I would give it all back to make DS1 and DD1 'normal'

What she doesn't realise is that most parents with a child with a disablity are in debt, that marriages break up due to the stress, that we have to spend so much more on day to day life...

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SparklyGothKat · 10/02/2010 10:55

we had the catbums face this morning from Snotty cow. Me and my group of SN mummies just laughed

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meltedmarsbars · 10/02/2010 11:33

I've stopped cringeing: now I proudly take my drooling, shrieking dd2 anywhere - went to Art Gallery last w/end, dc's whizzed her around the place very fast, much to her enjoyment! I "sort of" apologise to other visitors "sorry, there's not much I can do to stop her shouting"

Amazing how quickly we can empty an art gallery!

Then we go to caff and tube-feed very obviously and make a lot of noise.

imo, we have every right to be there, the rest of the world needs to grow up!

Mouseface · 10/02/2010 12:37

Now then girls, let's stop this farce! We all know that the money we get for caring for our beautiful children is to fund our gin and chocolate addictions. Also, the reason that some of us don't take our children to school and they have their own drivers is because we'd miss Jeremy Klye in the morning and Murder She Wrote in the afternoons! Der! We sit at home all day, dreaming of what to do when the next benefit payment goes into our accounts.......... day at the races? Buy those Jimmy Choo's we'd seen? Slap up dinner in town? Or we could just remember that we can't go to work and need every tiny little penny that we get, just to survive (and on a basic level!) because let's face it.....if we had to have them put into full-time residential care or have a nurse to care for them at home, even for a few hours a day, it would cost the tax payer (and I know most of us have been one at some time in our lives) a shit load more!!

So, "Mrs I work for a living and bring up two children so am going to scowl at you" in the playground......... kiss my @rse because as most of you have already said - as much as we love our DC, we wouldn't wish their conditions on anyone and we'd give anything for them not to go through the pain/torment etc that they do each and every day!!!

Sorry, rant over. But on a serious note, as hard as it is not to let these halfwits upset you - you are doing an amazing job. Even when you think you aren't and I have to second dropping our DC off at hers with no meds!!! HA HA HA!!

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SparklyGothKat · 10/02/2010 15:51

Lol Mouse! love it

Today I went to the special needs groups I help run, we had a new lady come, in floods of tears, because she is struggling to cope with it all. Snotty cow should come to the group and see what we have to deal with, then say we don't deserve a bit extra help.

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fanjoforthemammaries7850 · 10/02/2010 15:52

well, I am dead lucky as I get to work and rake in DLA, my life is just such a breeze!!

fanjoforthemammaries7850 · 10/02/2010 15:53

I wish I was near your group, haven't heard of ANY special needs groups here (Edinburgh) so end up going to ordinary toddler groups and feeling rubbish.

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SparklyGothKat · 10/02/2010 15:58

I am actually looking for a PT job atm, just to get out of the house as its driving me mad, can't do FT as have to be available for appointments as DH can't drive with his knees problem anymore, but hey a few hours being me and not mum, carer, etc will be great

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waitingforgodot · 10/02/2010 15:58

hey Fanjo hows it going! Whats the latest on your DD?

lisad123wantsherquoteinDM · 10/02/2010 16:10

point her out to me, I'll take a stick to her legs, then she'll know what its like to not be able to walk properly and be in pain. Or we could just egg her

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SparklyGothKat · 10/02/2010 16:13

pmsl@ lisa Lady at children's centre told me I was a good girl for not lumping her one

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fanjoforthemammaries7850 · 10/02/2010 18:06

waitingforgodot...well, one neurologist told us we were to have tests that week, 3 weeks ago...but we got an appointment through for 3rd march just to talk to other neurologist.

DD has had a cold and has been falling over and slurring her speech lots again, its a worry not knowing if its something really awful.

fanjoforthemammaries7850 · 10/02/2010 18:10

The report said they are looking for "neurometabolic condition"...have tried not to Google, but they are never good.

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waitingforgodot · 11/02/2010 14:10

Fanjo-one step closer to finding out best way to help her. Keep me posted and keep smiling x

ouryve · 11/02/2010 16:06

Reading this thread makes me love my little community all the more. It's a grotty little village with few amenities, but the people here are mostly fabulous.

DS1 wants a biscuit. Excuse me

LollipopViolet · 12/02/2010 18:25

I get catbum faces when I get on a bus with my pass or show my railcard and there's no obvious impairment.

Try on my glasses, and you will see! (Or rather, you won't )

My friend has CP, is a wheelchair user and says the day she can go into a new place and not get stared at, we will live in a perfect world.

Riven, being nosy here (anyone can answer too ) but what are CP noises? I've heard you mention the phrase a lot. As I say, the only person I know with CP is only limited in mobility.

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