Hi, me again, and I'm in a real quandry.
In March DS was seen by the Ed Psych who said he was fairly confident that DS (now 6) has some form of ASD ( possibly PDA - pathalogical demand avoidance) and after completing the CARS scale thingy he said he was confident that DS is mild to moderate on the scale (DS also failed the theory of mind test quite conclusively). At the time DS had had 15 horrific months at school where he had been frustrated, aggressive, angry and unhappy. Since this report School have been treating him much more as an ASD child and have taken on board some of the EP's recommendations and some of the things we have suggested. DS has settled down much more, been MUCH happier and is making good academic progress (he is very bright anyway so his progress has been incredible this year). He has started to gain better control of his temper and is being much more copperative. His behaviour at home has deteriorated however, he is closer to the edge and will erupt if things are not going his way.
Back in March we asked for a referral to the Child Development Centre and we had the first meeting this week. Now since Easter DS has been better at school and the paed said 'I'm not sure if I can help you' because DS is being fine at the moment. I was a bit non plussed by this and don't think I 'sold' DS's difficulties to her well enough, although she has agreed to observe him at school and refer him to a SALT just to get a baseline assessment of his verbal communication.
SO - do I carry on with pushing for their involvement?
I am thinking about putting our concerns down on paper and sending this to her because I feel that I didn't say loads of things I should have done. I am concerned that DS will revert to his old behaviour with the move to Y2 in September and a return to the teacher who taught him in reception and didn't handle him well, I am also concerned that he will revert as his routine will be altered or if things go wrong (like if he's ill or tired or something) or if school stop treating him like they have been since Easter.
What do you think? School seem to think they have cracked it and things are now all hunky dory and will continue to be so as he has 'matured'. They don't accept the PDA dx and are somewhat sceptical about an ASD tag too, although they do accept he 'exhibits autistic characteristics' whatever that means.
Aaargh! What would you do?? I just want him to continue to be happy and do well, but don't want to waste the paed's time as I know that there is a long waiting list and there are other people out there who have need of their input.
Thanks for reading this far. Would appreciate your thoughts - THANKS! WMxx