aibu to think disabled does not always mean un healthy

[2shoes]

why do people insist on saying " oh at least it is healthy"
dd is healthy, loads of disabled kids are healthy

I know what you mean

ds3 very healthy,ds1 was until this whatever - it - is hit.

well dd is a horse today, but all kids get colds.

DS1 being tested for diabetes and severe anemia atm, but probably not (I amtelling myself)

They have great immune systems and messedup processing in their brains.Simples.

Someone once told me Ds2 had lovely teeth for a disabled person .

PMSL

good use of

Thanks . I prefer it better than , it looks less mean.

oh I am always told dd has lovely teeth(maybe she is a horse)

Thats all fair and well 2hoes, but does she have nice hair?

DS1 has terrible teeth (they snapped at the front after a fall at school and we've been waiting a year for referral to have them fixed, and the rest are just yuck)

He has lovely blonde curls though if that counts?

Lovely teeth for a disabled person? WTF?

I have been told ds1 was too good looking to be severe.

Know what you mean about confusing health and disability.

5inthebed she does(i think) and poor girl it sometimes told she looks like me(omg howm much can one girl take)

MrsT, did you not know it's a shame to be disabled AND good looking?

2shoes, I always picture you to be little and blonde, so thats how I shall think of your DD now

that's what the (mad) woman said 5. 'it's such a shame he's so good looking'. I was so tempted to ask whether it would be ok if he was ugly.

5inthebed I am so not blonde.
I am brunette and aof average height, you have to be careful of this picturing people. I did it once all over someones name, when I met her she looked nother like I imagined(way more glamours) and it took me ages to believe it was her lol

ds2(asd)is very healthy and gorgeous too . Tonight he was at the hairdressers for BLonde highlights hes 16 he really enjoyed the pampering and now looks like a member of a boy band

Don't you know that our kids have only got worth if they can be married off? very goodlooking + sn = bloody hell,almost managed it there!

I've been told its lucky ds1 is attractive becuase it might just be enough to persuade someone to marry him.Er wtf? A) why shouldn't he marry? Who knows what he'll be like at 25, 30?and B) why t f would he want someone who thought like that?

I was told by BIBIC that ds3's cuteness was not necessarily an asset as it would persuade people to baby him too much and see him as a teddy bear- that's been largely true and I am sure part of the reason we struggled to get the MS school to admit defeat.

Peachy (not sure what else to call you), DS2's EP has said the same about him. He looks like a toddler, still has chubby little cheeks and a very innocent look about him, big brown eyes and extra long eyelashes. His baby looks get him out of all sorts (even though he is the size of a 5 year old)

Marriage? Haven't even looked that far ahead. My kids, NT and SN, aren't leaving home until they are 35

Well I'm pleased ds is so good-looking. I've already decided he is going to be a male model because he can earn loads of money without having to talk. Also when people find out about his weird eating habits they will just think it is the latest slimming fad.

dd2 is blonde and blue eyed

she is having squint surgery this summer, as the new consultant actually thinks that it is worth doing cosmetic treatment on disabled children...

very healthy, very handsome. a bit daft and clumsy, but great singing voice. more than one paed has pointed out the good looks...and charm...well, he'll always be a hit with the ladies!
Someone tell me, are we too sensitive? maybe all kiddos get comments like these?

DH has bewilders me by saying our 13 year old Aspie lad need not worry about his poor social skills 'cos he is so good-looking he will always be a babe-magnet!

Surely this will cause more trouble than not?

It has started already - he has acquired a very sweet little "girlfriend" (who asked HIM out) at youth club. She has mistaken his inability to engage socially strong silent Aspie style for cool aloof mysteriousness and his use of long words while boring on about discussing Japanese Anime films as sign of a brilliant intellect (I wish! ).

He admitted to me he's more interested in getting to the next level on Halo 3 and thinking about the new Dr Who series than GIRLS, but she's always asking him if he luurrves her.

She came for tea last week - it was the most heavily chaperoned "date" since the 18th Century. Every time I tried to leave them alone for 5 minutes DS turned round and waggled his eyebrows at me frantically, our Secret Signal for "Mum- help!!" So she spent the whole time playing board games with both of us. Poor kid.

It gets worse. In an attempt to help them make conversation, I asked if she'd chosen her GCSE options yet (they are both in year 9). She said no, she's not really that bothered because all she's ever wanted to do is work in a nursery looking after toddlers.

I saw DS's jaw drop - he is a shocking intellectual snob - and had to kick him twice VERY HARD under the table to prevent him causing a diplomatic incident.

It's a bloody minefield I tell you...