*ADHD or not please help im confused*

[keztim]

My 5 year old lad is well lets say hard work at the moment at school we have a senco and an iep set out but his behaviour seems to be getting worse and schoolwork is still not progressing, for instance hes very active and finds it hard to concentrate with all aspects of schoolwork and other tasks at home. He seems to have alot of mood swings and be very agressive and angry at times. I dread taking him out to any social events as he normally acts up at this events even shopping. Hes very defiant he always believes that hes right and that if i said the sky was up he would say it was down knowing full well that he was wrong. Im feeling so down at the moment not knowing really what is going on is he just naughty or is there an underlining problem. If anyone would like to give me any advice i would be grateful as i feel confused.

I'm in no position to diagnose, but I very much doubt if he is just naughty. It sounds like he is very anxious and easily overwhelmed and the school have clearly noticed he has difficulties. Keep a diary for a few days and talk to your GP and ask for a referral to whoever in your area deals with this sort of thing (might be the community or developmental paediatrician or it might be CAMHS).

hello,i am going threw the same at the moment,i also have a 5 year old boy who is hard work and ive been very confused! its so hard,my son started school in september and ive been called in alot about his behaviour,hes been hitting because he cant get his own way,spitting at kids because they annoy him,not concentrating,shouts out for no reason,refuses to do work because its boring,hes not allowed to go into a line up because he pushes and hes not allowed into the loo by himself because he floods it,nice!my list could go on and on,however,his behaviour is similar at home,although not as extreme as we are so strict with him,we also have a very clever teacher who spotted all of this on day 2 of school,i didnt belive her at 1st and thought she was exaggerating.i always knew my son was very hard work and never connected it with adhd,but since teacher has had several words with us im starting to belive it! im finding heart breaking.i also bought a book called understanding adhd,which was so helpfull,i showed this book to teacher and i told her i could tick every page in relation to my son,she agreed,i then went to my gp and asked for a referral,i am now waiting for that,his appointment is in 5 weeks,im dreading it,but im also ready for what they will probably tell me,teacher has him on an iep which im not sure works,and after his assessment the school will get me some sort of help if i want it,they said they will talk to me afer the assessment,i know i havent given you much adivce,but i thought if i gave you the symptoms my son has then that mite be of some help for you to decide if it is adhd,as teacher has said he has many symptoms of it.my son is also very implusive,he has ocd,and things have to be done in a certain way,he talks constant,and would go nuts if you looked away while hes speaking,hhe also argues constant,you should take your son to your gp,have him checked,for your own peace of mind,im glad i went,try and pick up that book it will explain so much,and since reading it ive been alot more paitent with my son.

Thank you both so much for taking the time to reply but especially trasa as i feel that im not the only one whose confused over it all now Ive booked him in at GP and im looking to purchase that book you mentioned.
Thank you both once again.

hiya i am so sorry to hear about your problems and i know how you are feeling as i was going through the same problems with my ds from which in oct was diagnosed with adhd and was put on ritalin and melatoin to help him sleep and thankfully was doing well on them but unfortunately has been taking off them as his white blood count has lowered which could be due to his meds We have had a good weekend with him although it has been hard work trying to keep him occupied and taking him away from any situations that was about to escalate into something major but taking him in to school today and he has flew off the rails scribbling on work throwing chairs being aggressive towards others so now i dont know what to do as i know he needs his education but his health is more important so i pity you as i know what you are going through just try and nip it in the bud now before it gets worse