Grey is the new must have look, apparently. That's me sorted then!
I think there has been lots of good advice on here, and honesty too.
I don't think there is a parent amongst us who hasn't felt completely weighed down by it all, at some point.
We laugh - it's a very black humour these days, but we laugh. It's better than crying, tho there's a lot to be said for a good weep now and again.
We argue more now - really argue rather than our previous gentle bickering, but we both know we are stressed and have promised to apologise when we always sometimes take things out on each other.
We have time together, just us. We have respite on a Thursday evening for 3 hours. NOTHING pointless and houseworky gets done until we have sat down and had 1 simple meal together, if that's all we have time for. Sometimes, we even go out for a meal which brings me to my next point, echoing Pagwatch.
It helps to have money. We are not wealthy, but we are not struggling either and it is a massive help to be able to say 'lets use these three hours to go for a drink/meal/cinema' etc. when you do not have to worry about the next bill or if you can put the heating on . We are lucky at the moment that is an additional stress we don't have.
Also, and this is impossible for some, I work full time. I think it helps your moral generally if you have something other than being a carer. I am, for part of the time at least, something else as well as DSs Mum.
We are very fortunate, I know. It is so hard though - it is so easy for this life to become all-consuming and wear you down.
((((Hugs All)))