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ASD girls forum NOW OPEN

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lisad123wantsherquoteinDM · 28/01/2010 23:49

DH has finally finished (although he has a little bit left) our forum, so heres the link and hope to see you there soon

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lisad123wantsherquoteinDM · 01/02/2010 21:26

For DD1 its the fears and tears that trouble us most. She has yet to go a whole day without tears and she is 7years. She will say that i have ruined her whole day if i tell her off and she cries. She gets herself in a right state if things arent as planned, or she understands things differently. She smacks herself in the head if she gets something wrong. She was developly delayed but speech was always good but her language understanding was terrible.
HTH

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lisad123wantsherquoteinDM · 08/02/2010 16:07

no one is using it ver lonely in there

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knat · 08/02/2010 16:48

just to let you know I have used it lisa but there are few and far between posts!! Hopefully it will pick up - I think it's a good idea. Natalie

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lisad123wantsherquoteinDM · 08/02/2010 16:54

thanks Natalie, I saw your post, I just really hope it picks up, shame to spend so much time making it and such a great place for suport, but will have to wait and see

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CardyMow · 08/02/2010 22:32

I keep forgetting to e-mail you, as I don't usually have my email open at the same time as MN (OLD laptop, doesn't cope with more than one window open at a time). Makes it rather difficult! When I try to keep the page for your forum open and open my email, the lappy crashes.

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lisad123wantsherquoteinDM · 08/02/2010 22:47

darren has changed the confirm code to make it easier to read, see if its better now

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CardyMow · 08/02/2010 23:55

Cheers, will do!

CardyMow · 09/02/2010 00:07

YAY! I can read that one, will wander over shortly! Am now registered! Thank You.

colnelcustard · 09/02/2010 07:25

I have been pointed this chat out from another thread that I have posted on regarding concerns about my four year old daughter.

If I list my concerns can someone please help me. My partner refuses point blank to believe there is something 'not quite right', but I have had a niggling feeling that I have not been able to shake for years now. When I read about ASD it all seems to fall into place. So here goes:

1 Is obsessed at the moment with Littlest Pet Shop. Wants to be called Littlest Pet Shop cat and everything has to be about that subject. Before Christmas it was Kitty (as in Hello Kitty).

  1. She gets very upset by surprises, last year as a surprise we took the children to EuroDisney. We didn't tell them until we got to the park. We had also gone the year before and she loved it. She reacted really badly to the surprise, refused to go on anything and cried constantly.
  1. She relates better to boys than girls. I am not sure if this because she has an older brother but she just does not want to play 'girl games'. Therefore, I think girls avoid her at school. She does play with some girls but the ones that she plays with are more tomboyish. I know that all she wants to do is play Littlest Pet Shop which obviously other girls don't want to do constantly.
  1. She hates the dark and loud noises. She wont' go to the cinema and although we joke about it hates any form of mild peril. So if she is watching a Disney film for example when Aladdin got stuck in the cave she ran out and would not watch.

These are just some examples. I would really aprecciate some feedback.
If she is ASD then what does this mean for her and for us. I don't know much about it - will she be able to lead a 'normal' life. I know that sounds dreadful but my heart is breaking over her behaviour and I seem to be alone in my concerns.
Sorry spelling goint to pot as so early!

colnelcustard · 09/02/2010 09:43

bump sorry i hate doing that

knat · 10/02/2010 15:48

catchymonkey i have a dd now 6 who is asd (poss Aspergers or HFA). Certainly the obsessions ring a bell as my daughter does the same and wants to be called cat etc or whatever the latest obsession is as well as the dark and noises. How does she react with other children? Does she play with them or alongside them? Does she go to nursery and have they raised any concerns? How does she cope with any changes and does she have any particular routines that have to be done a certain way (my dd doesn't necessarily ahve this but if something's going to happen then she can only do that thing and nothing else that day). Have a look at the National Autistic Website - that might help you. If she does have ASD it will depend on what her traits are as to how she will progress and how her life will pan out. In my opinion facing up to it and helping her with her anxieties etc can only prepare her for her future as best as possible. It is hard and heartbreaking but there are so many postives these children bring as well.

colnelcustard · 10/02/2010 16:36

she does play with other children and both nursery and school have not raised concerns.

its just this niggle that i have that i cannot shake. parents evening tomorrow so i am going to ask about it without putting ideas in their heads.

i do suffer from depression and i wonder if i am putting alot into this because i am feeling quite low lately.

knat · 11/02/2010 08:09

See how you feel - you can just ask how she interacts with her peers, is she on a par etc. Does she play with toys in an unusual way? Line things up or have stimming behaviour ie spinning a lot, flapping hands etc? Have a look at the NAS website anyway to give you more of an insight and also see if there's anything else on there that might or not be in line with your dd's behaviour and may also prompt any other questions for parents evening. Good luck

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