My daughter seems to be regressing.

[mummyloveslucy]

Hi, my daughter is nearly 5 but has a mental age of 2.5-3.5 years. She has been slow to potty train, but has been dry for almost a year. She still soils herself very regularly, and has recently started to wet herself too. She's doing it almost every day. She does it at school and doesn't tell anyone, she just comes home with a dryed in tide mark on the back of her blowse. I've told the teacher who has said that she will keep reminding her during the day. She said that because she got so good at going, she didn't feel she needed to remind her anymore. I'm worried that she will be picked on by the other children if this carries on.
In other areas she is improving, her pen control is comming on really well and she's recognising some letters, which is a big improvement.
It's just getting really stressful having her wet through our fabric sofa, her clothes and the carpet all the time. I don't want our house smelling like a toilet.
Is there anything I could or should do? We will be going on holiday soon for the first time with her, and I want to get her sorted by then or she'll have to wear a pull-up on the flight.

Thanks, I will.

Could she be finding school life too stressful? It is a huge step for NT children, let alone children with additional needs. Also, she has recently been assessed in quite an in-depth way, so perhaps she is becoming aware of her difficulties being slightly more than just her speech?

If your DD has been soiling could she be constipated? It isn't always in the not going at all sense, but can be over flow so little bits getting through. If she is constipated that can impact on wetting as the pressure from the bowel will mean she loses the ability to hold her wee. My DS1 had a similar pattern and in the end we were prescribed Movicol for him which has helped a lot although isn't an overnight cure by any means. (though touch wood he has been accident-free for a while).

I would take her to the GP to rule it out if nothing else.

Yes, you could be right. She is having quite a bit of one to one help at the moment and it's probubly quite intense, although she does seem to enjoy it. She is aware that the other children are more advanced, as they tend to mother her.
Not quite sure what I can do to make her feel less stressed, if that's what it is.

Yes she is often constipated and has been perscribed Movicol. I give her one every now and again, but maybe I should give it more regularly. It does tend to cause the runs, so it's a bit awkward giving it on school days, as she dosn't control herself at the best of times.
I don't think the soiling is all constipation either. She will just stand there and start pushing, she'll do huge ones in her knickers as well as little bits.

She is also being quite demanding with her food. She askes for something, so I cook it and she'll eat about half of it and say she dosn't want anymore. She'll then say she's hungary and wants something different, I made it for her and she did the same again. I then said that if she didn't eat it, there wouldn't be anything else. She refused to eat anymore and has gone to bed hungry.
She does seem to be attention seeking ethen though she always has my attention. She's starting to drive me mad.

It was quite messy for the first week or so when we started DS1 on the movicol but after that it settled down. Can appreciate you don't want to go through that when she is in school so maybe get the worst of it over half-term? Is she definitely pushing or could she be straining not to hold it in IYKWIM? The problem with ongoing constipation is the bowel get stretched so the child doesn't get the usual signals so for DS1 it took movicol to clear (if you'll pardon the pun) the backlog then to get him into a more regular pattern. It relied on us watching him for a few months tbh but he got there in the end.

Yes, I think we'll have another go during half term.