Scary moment yesterday- and a Q about SN wrist harnesses

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DH about and ds2 with friends so we popped out and took boys for lunch, had to have outside (in a covered area) table.

Trips out are scary atm as ds3 refuses any form of reins but runs away a lot,the only reason we can keep him safe on his brother's school run (after he is dropped by SNU taxi) is because a few of his old 1-1's are there as well and they grab him if he bolts and they can see me chugging along behind with the pushchair. We're lucky that they are there.

It is also scary as he has no sense of stranger danger and I do not think ever will have, if someone took his hand he would go.

Anyway, we were sat there and I was about to nip in and get napkins, turned around and someone had stood behind DH staring furiously at ds3 and was playing with himself very obviously.

I got between him and the boys and he wandered off, tbh it was clear he had LD himself but nonetheless it shook us- what if insted of meeting him when we were all sat and observing, ds3 had met him on one of his many bolts?

I know it's pointless speculation but it brought us back from it-won't-happen world into RL again with a bolt, and finally got DH discussing some kind of wrist harness (DH has this fear of going backwards, whilst I am not sure we were ever forwards enough to go without IYSWIM. He should be fine with hands but slips them and if it's just me I need to push ds4).

Has anyone got experience of the wrist harnesses? We had to ditch the crelling waist belt after he learned how to do the clasp (his latest report states he has a significantly higher than average ability for object assembly, he managed to suss the crelling car harness in days yet I couldn't even do it up alone LOL). He unpicked the stitches as we walked on a standard wrist harness but not sure if the crelling one is substantial in comparison? He will be 7 in July btw.

I was going to say that for DD1 we use a standard wrist strap from Boots, but will need to change soon, because she can undo it now. Not sure about the Crelling one. I know it is scary, though.

What about velcro as if is noisy when being undone so you'd have a warning?

Hmm,velcro is a good idea,might give that a shot.

We use one of these for dd2, i think dd2 would wriggle out of a wrist strap.

Dd2 managed to bold last summer when we were walking along Poole key (with the road one side of her and the sea/harbour the other side), luckily dh was with me ant took chase but still very scary.

Little life do a larger back pack for bigger kids with a D ring for the "rein" from their toddler back pack.
BUT if your lad is good at undoing clasps he will have no problem escaping the little life packs, they are very easy to undo.

velcro- LOTS of it and wide too. the thin strips get quiet pretty fast.

Hi,

If you have a chat with crelling about the particular issue they may be able to do something about it. Had one child who worked out how to undo the clasp on a waist harness and crelling produced a harness with a steel buckle on it that he has so far not managed to escape from!

There are some great ideas and avenues to explore on here,thank you

Are you telling us there was a man doing inappropriate behaviour around your ds? If so, I would report him to the police! Or have I got the completely wrong end of the situation?

There was, but by the time I had gotten the boys together he was long gone. I did debate reporting him to the police but Dh was against it as the man clearly had SN.

SN or not, if he is a danger to children he needs help/monitoring. If you have the description, I would still report your concerns.

I would want to know and do the right thing if he was my adult son.

He was in his fifties - sixties soprobably LAcare I would guess.

I will see how much of the description Dh remembers: I immediately out myselfwith my back to him so he couldn't grab ds4's buggy so don't remember much but dh was directly facing him.