asd and private housing.. do they mix?

[Debs75]

We are looking for a larger house so are thinking of going private. My main concern is DS 11 ASD is particulary violent and destructive.
Do any of you rent privately and have kids who are destructive and how do you and the landlords deal with it?

House 1: ds1 destroyed it tbh,kicked a hole in the wall,lost us our deposit (should point out Landlord did not make a loss- we still got back a balance)

here- weare sovery carefuland we go very much over and above what we are responsible for,decorating repairs etc.We've been here almost 5 years with no problems so is working fine. There will be stuff to replace when we are thrown out (when she decides tosell orpass to her kids who actually own it, was a bequest now held in trust) but we'd do that if we owned it anyway.

we rent private and have 2 ASD children, i don't think its a problem as long as you repair what gets broken.

I suppose it depends on individual landlords then.
So far ds has wrecked 4 v.cheap and nasty internal doors, smashed a window, ripped a door off its hinges, pushed a door off its hinges and broke the frame, cracked the plaster in his room and broke 3 light fittings.
These are all in an old badly maintained council house almost 100 years old. I am assuming private landlords are more repair orientated. Were you able to geT adaptions done easily?

Can I hijack this thread to ask about your neighbors and how you handle them? We're having terrible problems due to the noise ds makes at all hours.

We rent privately from the world's fussiest landlord but seem to be ok. We did take the door off ds's bedroom for a while as he was slamming it into the wall (funny L-shaped room) and smashing the plaster, plus I spend a lot of time shampooing carpets (poo related, 'nuff said!), but apart from that I don't think we cause more wear and tear than is reasonable for a family house.

Our neighbours are incredibly noisy with their yappy dogs and hot-tub parties at all hours so if they want to complain about ds they won't have a leg to stand on.

Cornsilk Our current neighbour complained non-stop when we moved in about everything from ds making too much noise running upstairs to the moise made having a laminate floor fitted to parking issues. Thye day we got a dog she went straight to council to complain.
After a while i went into council as they were sending the ASBO officer out to us and explained about ds's asd and they stopped telling us when she complained. DP slammed the door in her face a few times so she hasn't dared knock for a couple of years now. The other neighbours havern't complained once and they are on DS's side.

The ASBO officer
My neighbour complains a lot about ds yet last night he was playing Kasabian full blast at midnight. Wanker.

Yes the ASBO officer.
Because my neighbour is in her 60's they kept coming out and implied that to keep her happy they had to follow her complaints up so as not to upset her. They didn't care about upsetting me.

I am hoping to get a nice 'yes we can repair that again' tyope of landlord who isn't too concerned about having posh fixtures and fittings in the house. and not minding us laying vinyl or laminate flooring tomake cleaning poop easier.

Our neighbours put up a 6ft fence when we moved in! The other side have been brilliant though, I think it jsut depends on people.

We jsut have to repair what gets broken, and repaint. It has been fine.