feeling rubbish and battered after last nights melt down

[TheArsenicCupCake]

DS2 (11)had the most almighty melt down last night, he was trying to hit me, break things flailing , kicking out, yelling.. it was the works. Normally works really well I'd hold him from the back in a hug talk calmly until he calms down a bit and I can leave him where he and everyone else is safe.
Last night however he managed to bite me, throw his head back into my chest and fling himself backwards so now I'm rather battered.

I didn't see the melt down coming as he switched and flew right full blast into it ( because he was told his screen time was nearly up and could he turn his computer off in 10 mins).

Most of the time I can catch it before and aim his moments toward a ball or a pillow etc.

Is it best that next time I just make the room and those about safe and leave him to it?

I know the answer, I'm just venting really last night was horrid.. and ds is getting bigger and stronger and just when I think we're at a better place , I realise we're not.

< picks self up.. dust self off and plasters on a smile ready for school pick up>

Awww...It gets soooo much harder when they're basically the same size as you/taller than you.

That's what I'm dreading. My ds2 is nearly 9 so being kicked is not such a big deal iykwim - the thought of those feet when he's a teenager, god he will be so much harder to control.

okay we had another one ( more mini this time,) this afternoon when he got in from school, I didn't even try and hold him. I made sure everything was safe and let him go for it.

I also know why I didn't see the last one coming, during this afternoons he was yelling about his dad ( my ex).. who as we have now found out is putting huge pressure on him to move down there, demanding ds2 gives him an answer ( a yes answer) by this weekend, so that he can take me to court! OMG

DS2 doesn't want to go but is totally stressed as they have told him he should let them down. OMG!
no wonder he flipped.

going to make a few calls to a few people tomorrow.

shouldn't*

In answer to your last question, apparently yes - what J's psych says.

It is so hard and so horrible - hope today was a better day.

I got Ds (age 5 and asd) a punchbag that screw into a hook on the ceiling - best thing ever.