Do you have a "Golden Rule" for the family / other DC?

[MiladyDeWinter]

Ours came about more from DS aged two who is being assessed for ASD than us, but it is:

"DD (aged 9) if DS is happy then leave him well alone!

He will sometimes join in family games and make eye-contact but woe betide you try to interrupt his placement of the farm animals or try to join in with him.

Oh I seem to be alone as regards this. It is OK - good practice perhaps

To DS1...if I say DD is about to meltdown...Leave her ALONE!!! (and run, quickly....)

We have the same rule. If DS2 (Autism and Dyspraxia) is quite and happy, then DO NOT DISTURB.

Only acknowledge ds 14 (asd) if he acknowledges you first. If he is ignoring you it's not that he hasn't noticed your presence it is more he is tolerating you so long as you ignore him.
Do not interrupt the routines unless it is a life threatening emergency and then only if there is no alternative.
If the door to his room is shut do not enter, do not knock and enter, move away quickly and hope he hasn't sensed you lurking near his door.
However if you are dd 6 (asd also) you can ignore all the rules because he will allow you to do all the things that nobody else is allowed to as much as contemplate.

Only things like "don't wake DD1 up, she'll have a seizure".

I suppose "if you put your hair in her way, it's your fault if she eats it" is another one. :hmm: