Lost it today at nursery!

[mysonben]

These last few weeks have been bad, DS has been so challenging, sensory issues have increased and so have stims.
The one thing that is positive is the progress he has made with speech since he has started at the language unit.
Everything else is worse!
And we are still waiting on that referal for Saucepans for help with behaviours.
EP said she would refer over 2 months ago and haven't heard anything.

We are struggling hugely with DS's behaviours,
he is harrassing poor DD (21m) and i cannot leave them together for 2 minutes without him punching her back or her belly, trying to push her, snatching everything of her hands, trying to jump on her,... but i know deep down he does love her. He is just so hyped up atm.
He has been slamming himself in the new lounge unit, he is slapping his face when he cries because of the tears running down his cheeks, he is a total nightmare at mealtimes won't eat, spits his food on the floor.
Same palaver for bath, getting dressed and undressed,... he is turning into a child possessed like in the exorcist!

I am at the end of my tether!
And i lost it when i dropped him of at nursery. I ranted to his teacher that i was fed up with waiting for people to help, that i didn't give a damn if the EP thought he had asd or not, that we were the ones trying to cope with him without help and i was tired of waiting and getting nowhere.
And i nearly bawled...
Teacher was sympathetic and said she would chase up the EP about the referal to Saucepans this afternoon, and would let me know later
I hope i get some good news when i pick him up...

I have lost it so many times at the school i have given up being how did it go when you collected him?

Oh MSB Did she chase up for you?

I am unsure of whether she has or not.
When i picked him up, she had already left and hadn't left any note for me.
Other teacher said she did get a phone call at one point during the afternoon but didn't know if it was related to my query.
It's just so typical really...

Oh fgs, you just feel completely abandoned and ignored don't you?

Can you chase yourself? How has he been today?

I've lost it a few times; you are in good company x

Hi MSB. Do you think it's all the Christmas excitement? My DS was certainly worse over Christmas, even to the point of vomiting more frequently over foods he doesn't like (something he usually does only occasionally !)

Our OT said excitement heightened the sensory response and I suppose these behaviours could be the result.

Maybe he'll calm down a bit once back into the swing of things. DS has - although the forecast snow will no doubt upset everything again!

Hope you got the referral sorted

I sent time sobbing down the phone to the poor lady at the autisic advisory service over the holidays. I felt so bad afterwards but only so much you can take
Hope things are better tomorrow

Thank you for supporting replies.

Debs40, DS had a bad session at SAL unit on monday, SAlt said xmas was quite a diruptive experience for some sensitive children, so maybe it is him reacting to the disruption.

But mind you he has been getting gradually worse for a while now, actually it started about the time he started at the unit back in early november.
Don't get it! He loves going there i think.

hello and happy new year. I've been struggling with DS at the mom, especially with DS2 (17m and v. determined young chap and v. different from his brother), whatever ds2 touches, ds1 jumps up and whips it out his hands. All presents are ds1, including ds2's. but likewise i know he loves him. it just such an immediate and physical reaction. Dinner time a nightmare and driving DH and me mad and arguments as what to do, rewards etc just don't work.

Over xmas the routine been v. different to the usual weekly set up. Although he faired better then i thought he would.

I wonder if that unconsciously stresses him out. But regarding your ds if he doing so well at language unit he needs some down time/ or release to process info. I sometime think if they advance in one area its at the expense of the others. but our ds definitely goes through good and bad periods. i think last night was the only night there was no shouting, which was amazing, feel such a bad parent.

writing this is`quite hard as ds1 been sent home from pre-school and is currently sitting on my head trying to strangle me with a snake! got to go

any news from the teacher today.

Thanks Jasdox and Starlight for posts.

Unfortunately, because of the snow, nursery has been closed so no news from teacher.
Tried ringing EP 's office but got answering machine.

If no rseponse from teacher early next week when snow issue is hopefully resolved, will write a letter to EP asking about referal and highliting the issues we have with DS atm.

I hope it will get things moving a little.
What p* me off the most is not even the waiting list as these can't be helped , it's 'the non response, the leaving you pondering what's going on attitude' that gets to me...