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The Big "D" Day has arrived.

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jayzmummy · 01/07/2005 10:07

If you manage to read this extremely long post then well done. I really could do with some ideas as to what sort of questions I can throw at these people this afternoon.

Well ladies today is the day I have to submit my decission to the LEA as to which school J will be going to if he returns to school in Sept.

Ive got a big Pow Wow with the LEA officers this afternoon. There are going to be so many professionals there and Im going it alone as DH is tied up with other commitments.

EP, CP, School Doctor( cus she has a very warped opinion of ASD!), OT, o'rrible Paed, SALT and two LEA officers will all be there from the local services.

Our independant EP and CP are coming along as is the link education teacher, Liz.

The first group of professionals apart from the SALT do not accept the independent CP's dx of Autism....but we knew that would happen...."funding", "budgets" and the words "lack of" spring to mind!! Dont accept the dx = cost cutting cus they dont have to provide services!!

CP as you know was refferred to us by NAS and worked at Elliot House under Lorna Wing for many years....he really knows his stuff and is very highly thought of in neighbouring counties.....so the lack of the local profesionals recognition of the dx doesnt concern me at all. What they know about ASD they could write on the back of a postage stamp and still have space remaining!

Our CP has made a suggestion to the LEA that they provide an ASD unit within a mainstream school for the ever growing numbers of children that are being dx with "the active but odd" dx of Autism.

He reports that this is the only placement that would offer J the educational provision that would fully meet his needs and if they do not do this they will be negligent by not providing an adequate educational setting.(I'm starting to wish solicitor chappie had been invited to attend!)

Our EP fully agrees with the CP's dx and recommendations as does Liz, the home teacher and SALT.

We have "looked at" all options available with schooling J at either a local mainstream or local special school. We have also "looked at" a residential school which is 70 miles away from home. Whilst this school would be a fantastic placement for J, I cant bring myself to send him away each week and of course the LEA would refuse funding because according to our idiot Paed J does not have a dx of Autism.....his opinion is that J has and I quote "just SPD and Autistic like tendencies". Lorna Wing is sending him her research into Semantic-Pragmatic disorder....then lets see what the smug git has to say about SPD not being an ASD!!!!

CP is suggesting that we approach the LEA and request funding to send J to the residential....fight our battle to secure funding and then when LEA have agreed to do this we tell the we dont want it! BUT instead they can use the however many thousands it will cost to educate J for the next 7 yers at the residential school, to make available a ASD unit attached to a local mainstream school. This unit would be able to accomaodate 6 children for the same ammount as it would cost to send one child to a residential school. Considering the LEA's are always banging on about lack of funding one would like to think that they would take on board our cost cutting plan....they sure know how to waste money!!!!

Does that make sense? I know of one other mom who has done this in South Devon.

Its going to be one hell of a battle and will probably skint us out with solocitors bills.....but I have to get J into a school where he will flourish and achieve his full potential.

So wish me luck. Keep your fingers crossed for me. It would be so lovely if he LEA would roll over and play ball....but somehow I dont think they will....well not without a battle first!

Ye hah!!! DH has just phoned to say his meeting has been cancelled.

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jenkins88 · 02/07/2005 00:32

Fantastic news - I'm so pleased for you.

jayzmummy · 02/07/2005 03:26

Dont look at the time of this post....we are still both and a bit tipsy to!!!!

DH has just said something that I really want to share with you.

I got all emotional and started blarting my eyes out about how much you have all helped me.....I really couldnt have managed the last 6 months without your support.

There I was sat on the sofa saying

"Oh and if xxxxx hadnt suggested blahdyblahblah, then I wouldnt have known thingy would I"

30 mins I sat singing all your praises.

DH was laughing because I kept saying

"and they are not RL people???"

I dont mean that in a nasty way....of course your all real life people...your all living arent you???

What I mean is we are all strangers arent we....OK a few have met up....some see each other more than others....some have never met BUT we are all such an important support network to each other and without you all I would have never got as far as have.

DH's comment....

"The mums on special needs have been instumental in us getting where we are today.....they have given us the bullets to fire the ammunition....and without them we would have been shot down a long time ago."

Corrr that really got me crying......must be the red wine

Some have posted comments saying we are wonderful parents, inspirational, determined.....well those comments are so touching to read BUT we could not possibly be the parents we are today if we had not had the support and guidance that you have given us.

THANKYOU from two very smiley happy people.

Im off to hospital to sort myself out on Monday....one battle ends and another one begins....just want to savour our happiness until then so I am disappearing from here for the weekend. Planning a family weekend full of fun and frolics.....hope you all have fun and did I say

THANKYOU

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jenkins88 · 02/07/2005 04:06

What a lovely thing for your DH to say. I bet a lot of the regulars who know you well will be wiping away a few (happy) tears when they read that.

I just wanted to second what you say about the SN board being so supportive. I don't post much but when I feel a bit down about DS I come on here and just read the new convo's and go through some old threads. Even though alot of stuff on here makes me cry it makes me feel better too because it makes me feel 'normal'. In RL I feel so gutted about DS's problems, but on here 'sn' is the 'norm' and I don't feel like the odd one out.

Hope you have a great weekend and are prepared for your next 'battle'.

KarenThirl · 02/07/2005 06:21

Well Jm, this is fantastic news and all down to your hard work. You must be so pleased and relieved. Well done, and good luck for the future.

Hope the hangover isn't too bad! What the hell, you've earned it.

Davros · 02/07/2005 15:49

Oh Jayzmummy, your early hours post made me smile, so pleased you are enjoying your "victory" and together too Call me anytime, can't guarantee I'll be here but I'll always call make (remember the chaos here the last time we spoke!) BTW, I posted some info on TEACCH on Socci's thread about toilet training and tutors, let me know if you can't find it.
JakB, you too, my ears are always open!

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