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Ok, when will DD1 get these things??

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lisad123wantsherquoteinDM · 28/12/2009 14:26

DD1 will be 7 next week, she cannot put her own socks on, tie her laces, ride a bike or cut up her food. What sort of age did your kids finally get the hang of these?
TIA

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Marne · 28/12/2009 16:27

Dd1 is 6 in a couple weeks, i can't ever see her riding a bike, she can put short socks on but not long ones, i buy shoes without laces and i cut up her food.

Barmymummy · 28/12/2009 16:30

My DD is 7 & NT and still can't tie her laces or cut up her food properly.... In fact my DS (ASD) is better at these things than her and he is only 4

Goblinchild · 28/12/2009 17:50

Put socks on, around 4.
Tie laces, suddenly over a weekend when he was nearly 11.
Eat with co-ordinated knife and fork without mess, not yet and he's 15. We use spaghetti dishes for dinner, te bowl and lip help.
Ride a bike...no.

Goblinchild · 28/12/2009 17:52

Although his handwriting and art are fantastic, he paints tiny Warhammer figures exquisitly and can manipulate sharp tools with precision.
With him, it seems to be more concentration and interest level that is the key factor.

wigglybeezer · 28/12/2009 18:05

Goblinchild, my DS2 is like your son, loves painting warhammer figures, amazing drawings, however, bad handwriting and his table manners are dreadful, regularly puts his open mouth on the lip of the bowl (we mostly use pasta bowls here too!) and pushes the food straight in.

He has just turned 9 and learned to ride a bike when he was 7 and a half, has only just got his 5m swimming badge (is in a class with 5 year olds, luckily he doesn't seem to have noticed). haven't even tried laces yet, dresses himself but tends to put things on back to front without noticing and has been known to put clothes on on top of his pajamas.

Has only just become competent at reading, although he is deemed bright.

Find it hard to match up the abominable writing with the fantastically detailed drawings, as i was good at both ! but his Dad is the same (they both do letters from the bottom up instead of the top down so can't do joined up writing easily).

Your DD will get there, probably just when you have given up on it ever happening.

Goblinchild · 28/12/2009 18:46

I didn't encourage mine with a bike as his social naivety was and is very high and he has no concept of Stranger Danger.
At 15, that matters less as anyone that tried anything would end up triggering a panic-fuelled enraged meltdown and need hospitalisation.
He's a fast walker and very good at observing road safety rules!

sarah293 · 28/12/2009 18:47

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donkeyderby · 28/12/2009 22:52

DS1 is 13 and can do none of the above. Has just learnt to take his coat off - small achievements are what counts.

TotalChaos · 28/12/2009 22:58

I'm just about NT (probably AS or dyspraxia traits) and still can't ride a bike or reliably tie laces.....tbh the bike and laces don't massively matter anyway, plenty of non-lace up shoes, even trainers these days!

sphil · 28/12/2009 23:33

DS2 (7,ASD) can't do any of those things. He can take his shoes, socks and all his clothes OFF though (and does so on a regular basis ).

saintlydamemrsturnip · 28/12/2009 23:38

ds1 is 10 and severely autistic, he can put on his own socks (and shoes) and can ride a bike. No to laces (but nor can my nearly 8 year old NT ds2!) and no to cutting up food. But he can lay the table and load the dishwasher. And steal food from his brothers' plates

saintlydamemrsturnip · 28/12/2009 23:39

oh bike is with stabilisers. Problem is he tends to suddenly lose interest and leaps off leaving you with him and the bike to manage!

sphil · 28/12/2009 23:53

When did you introduce the bike MrsT? (waves festively). Can DS1 steer? That's what I think Ds2 would struggle with. Dh is going to try a tagalong trike with him when the weather gets better.

I am impressed with laying the table! Might start DS2 on that - he can carry a plate of food very carefully into another room and put it down without spilling anything (which is more than DS1 can do!)

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lisad123wantsherquoteinDM · 29/12/2009 00:17

Ok feeling loads better now, thanks loads. We have tried getting DD1 a tag along bike that goes on the back of mine but you still need some balance to ride it, and it is a disartar!!

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CardyMow · 29/12/2009 00:24

DD (11.10yo) cannot tie laces/school tie. Rode bike at 7yo w/stabilisers, 9yo without. 8yo for putting socks on, but i was mean mummy (refused to do them anymore, had DS1 4yo at the time, getting him ready for pre-school, and DS2 was 2.5, and immobile, so had to do everything for him, had no more time in my morning). And I still have to cut up her food for her. DS2 (6.1yo) can't tie laces (or put on/take off shoes), can't do buttons, can't pedal even a trike, CAN put socks on ( new one, only this week), Can't put his pants on by himself and struggles with trousers. WAS considering getting him one of those 'low-rider' bike thingy's as I have a feeling the action would be slightly easier for him. And will spend FOREVER teaching him if need be. GOD NO I wouldn't get them to carry anything!!! It ends up on the carpet. Every time. Without fail. Spaghetti bolognese is a good one. As is blackcurrant squash .

CardyMow · 29/12/2009 00:25

My carpets are as technicolour as Joseph's coat!!!

squashimodo · 29/12/2009 00:41

'ds2 is almost 7 and has asd, can not tie laces or ride a bike, can put on his socks, and can just about cut up his food. He is also very good at arty stuff, and can cut out fiddly little shapes quite well, loves making landmark buildings to scale. He knows how to get dressed, but can't organise himself properly, and needs clothes laid out in order and even then is a bit touch and go, often wandering around having forgotten to get dressed. A bit like me really at the grand old age of 42

wigglybeezer · 29/12/2009 15:16

Also impressed with "laying the table" as i have to really concentrate to get the knives and forks the right way round and I'm 41 (still not entirely reliable at telling left from right which is why it took me six attempts to pass my driving test).

My three all find sequencing times of the day and days, weeks and months difficult, all time concepts really.

DS2 found pedalling really hard on his bike and hated the way the bike tilted on a pavement with a camber, I wish i had bought him a push along bike like his little brother had, they work brilliantly IMO.

VirginPeachyMotherOfSpod · 29/12/2009 15:43

DS1 can do socks, and bike but rarely does ride one (ASD), he's 10

ds2 can do socks but none of the tohers, he's 9 (dyspraxia though no officialdx)

ds3 can do socks badly, he's 6.5 (Autism)

i think in the main skills like that kicked in where they did @ 7, but there's no guarantees

I gave up riding at 20 as I always cycled into hedges and fences and got sick of it, struggle with cutting up food,can do socks and just about cope with laces (36, clumsyy old bugger with lots of as bits - got laces at 8, bike at 9, and left from right at 10 after mum stitched embarassing friyut patches on my trousers to help at dance class)

VirginPeachyMotherOfSpod · 29/12/2009 15:45

Oh and getting dressed- ds3- arrrgghhhh

OT mademepromise never to dress him as he can technically do it himself (buttons etc)

On a school day in routinre with 1-1 takes 'only'an hour

On a non school day it is taking me 3-4 hours and driving around the frigging bend as he wanders off, puts on the pyjamas agina, dances around, etc...... but I promised you see.

sphil · 29/12/2009 23:49

DS1 is 8 with dyspraxia - he can do socks and shoes with a struggle and is often found with clothes inside out or T-shirts on top of pyjamas etc. Can't ride a bike - even with stabilisers is very slow and wobbly. Can just about cut food, but again, finds it very difficult. It seems to be as much a strength issue as a coordination difficulty with him.

He's great at constructing Lego though

I really need to get better at leaving DS2 to get on with dressing - am in such a rush in the mornings that I tend to do it all for him. He is perfectly capable of changing his pjs three or four times in the night...

wraith · 31/12/2009 16:05

compleents on your child for his capbilitys, and interest in such an engaging hobby

shame he likes gw models ;)

wraith · 31/12/2009 16:09

some find difficulty with gross moter skills riding tieing eating, other marge mucle corodination but have incredible fine mucle contol excpt for handwriting, i know myself fits into this braket, im clumsy on foot and my handwriting is illegible at a ripe old age.

but am capable of detialed modeling work, still cant draw on paper toough.

claudialyman · 31/12/2009 21:50

Interesting thought. I cant imagine ds ever doing any of those things. Hard to know come to think of it if thats because of the physical issues that would prevent some of it, the fine motor difficulties i see but no-one else seems to, the visual problems or actually because his intellectual level would not reach to these heights anyway.

I think intellectually he could have managed some of these if the physical issues werent there.

So as to how much his ASD is also involved its hard to know.

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