constant chatting/ making noises, but i mean not a single minute of being able to keep quiet in my 6 1/2 yo

[joburg]

First of all, Merry Christmas to all of you!!!!!!!!

DD kan't keep quiet no matter what. But i mean, not a single minute. If she is playing, she talks to herself, if she helps me washing dishes, she chats, if she is in the toilet, she talks, if i ask her to keep quiet she does it for 30 seconds. she can't do more. Is this something i should be worried about? (i am thinking about her ability to concentrate, which is anyway LOW anyway, but if she makes all those noises on top, then her ability to focus goes just down the drain). She can go weee-weeee, uhuuuu, ahaaaaaa .... sometimes she sounds like a totally insane person and it's not playing, she does that while doing other things and i could almost bet she doesn't even realise she is making those sounds. The school has not yet complained about it, but i am worried about this coming also.

Should i try to try to train her (somehow) in keeping quiet for longer or is this just something that actually helps her in some way? Why is she keeping those constant noises, whether talking, singing or just making noises that make no sense at all?

DD often hums to herself. It is part of her ASD. It drives me totally insane! No answers, but you have my sympathy.

I just try to tune out....

huming is one thing .... but those woho-aha, screaming like noises out of the blue scare me the most .... as for the constant chating, oooo, yes, it drives me nuts too .... will the school be able to do something about it or shall i just try to work on it already now? A minute of quiet now, a minute and a half next month

I have tried this - but DS1 now loves shouting 'Quiet!' at us

We have this problem, and we have been using an ABA technique where you gradually build up their ability to be quiet. Do a ssh, be quiet finger and words, then do a sort of side to side, cutting the air motion in front of their face with your hand, while gazing intently into their eyes, starting with 5 seconds. At the end, if they've been quiet, you give lots of praise ("good girl, you were quiet!". Then you gradually build it up to 10 seconds, 20 seconds. It sounds odd but the theory is that eventually you can just make the hand side-to-side movement from afar, and they'll know to be quiet. It is working reasonably well with my DS, which is good as the constant noise drives me utterly mad too! It takes some effort though, so maybe not one to start during the stress of Christmas! Good luck!

Dd1 used to non stop and sing/make noises, she has started to learn to be quite (but finds it hard) by using her 5 minute egg timer, so i tell her to be quite for 5 minutes and sit her in front of her timer.

Dd2 has only just become verbal but we are now having the same problem with her, i'm not sure if the timer will work with dd2 as her understanding is not as good as dd1's. I do tell her to 'shhhh' or 'be quite' but she tends to just shout it back at me. She's still awake now and running through a list of her favorite tv program's , she will keep going until she falls asleep.

DD is right now behind me by the TV, our computers are in the living room and same is the tv, and i can't even focus on what i'm writing here (maybe it's also my fault; only child, used to be in my room alone since a baby, it's not easy to live like this with the constant noise around). She is talking, giggling, jumping up and down and i have to live like this day after day after day with the constant stress of either hearing the noise or stopping every 5 min from what i'm doing to shush her. I'm gonna get some kind of mental illness myself soon ....

Sigh, I have spent the last 2 days with DS being particularly constant in the noise dept. My inlaws were here all day yesterday and I think they finally got an insight into how constant the noise is. Sound effects, copyings off tv, familiar sentences spewed out time and again etc etc. When he went to bed you could see my shoulders physically drop. The noise is the one thing, I have to say, I really struggle to live with.

joburg- maybe we should put our dd's into the same room so they can constantly talk togethe .

I can't wait for dd1 to go back to school.

I've got 2 like that, it gets like chinese water torture in the end. I've personally found that locking myself in the loo with an i-pod can buy me 5 minutes of peace occasionally....

DS is 4 and has mild asd. He has speech delay but that doesn't mean he is quiet!
He is always at one extreme or the other, either overly vocal non-stop noise making like humming, chattering away, throat noises... or keeps so quiet we'd forget he is here.
There is no middle ground with him, i think it is part of his asd.

I do usually end my days locked in the bathroom with an ipod on and loud music playing so i wouldn't hear the damn cartoons & dd screaming and shouting. That helps for now but on long term .... ?
Oh, and i never tell DD to keep QUIET, i know it's gonna bounce back to us one day; the shush sound sometimes helps for a few seconds. sickofsocalledexperts thank you for the tip, will try it!

Does anybody know WHY do they make noise??? What is the mechanism behind the kid NEEDING to make those noises? We never made it beyond an assesment due to high prices so i could never really ask our [many] psychologues why is the kid mumbling constantly? Insecurity? Need of feeling like he is not alone? can't right now think of other reasons, but I would like to know if anybody ever got an answer?

To genarally annoy the hell out of their parents???!!!

Dunno, I wish I knew....

DS was watching a cartoon today and it blew me away because he replicates every sound that there is on there. The instrumentals, the sound effects, all of it. Its amazing that he even 'hears' these sounds because they gloss straight over me.

The same with the wii, he loves bowling and mario kart and again he hums or sings every word or sound effect that goes on. Whilst its incredibly irritating its also very clever because I couldnt do it!!

I think the theory about these noises, like my DS's constant babbling, is that they are "stims" or "self stimulatory" behaviours. In other words, they do them simply because they like the way they make them feel, and they may not even be conscious of doing them. I think it's a bit like when I chew my pen, without even realising, as I like the sensation of something in my mouth. Or when another person might bite their nails. That's why I think that somehow "disturbing " the habit, by consistently interrupting, or pointing it out with a "ssh" might just de-habit the behaviour (not sure it that makes any sense, but to me it's a - nicer- version of that stuff they used to paint on kids' thumbs to stop them sucking them, so that eventually the habit was broken).

this constant talking doesn't only happen with asd and autism, my ds has a GDD and is not on the spectrum but doesn't stop talking, his speech is severely delayed but that doesn't stop him.
Constantly talking and repeating the same question over and over again, it is irritating.