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Going to tackle toilet training over the hols

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waitingforgodot · 21/12/2009 19:03

with DS aged 3 and suspected ASD. I am going to make up a book with photos of the toilet, washing hands etc. Any other hints/tips?

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BriocheDoree · 21/12/2009 19:40

Be very patient. Expect it to take a long time. Sometimes ASD kids take much longer to learn the signals from their body so accidents might be more frequent (like, 5 mins after sitting them on the potty).
Rewards are good. DD had a special bag of toys to play with on the potty.
If he's not ready, stop and wait until later. I pushed DD (didn't have the faintest idea she wasn't NT) and it was bad. When she was ready (about 3.5) the process was remarkably simple, but I'd had about 6 months of her NOT getting it and terrible frustration for both of us.
Good luck

cyberseraphim · 21/12/2009 20:05

I agree it's likely to take longer (but you never know you could get lucky). Do you think he is showing any/most of the signs of readiness that is advised for NT children ? I found that there was no ASD specific answer - just later and longer !

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waitingforgodot · 21/12/2009 20:20

I am hoping with all the new books and stickers I have for him, I can keep him entertained long enough in the bathroom to have a bit of success. He has strong bladder control and can wear pants out to the park/shopping etc and be dry the whole time. I need to encourage him to make the connection between the toilet and doing a pee.

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cyberseraphim · 21/12/2009 20:37

I think if you can get the timing right some entertainent is a good idea but don't prolong the fun or he may not associate the fun with success.

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waitingforgodot · 21/12/2009 22:30

How do you mean? He previously got fed up sitting on the loo for longer than 3 seconds so I thought a good strategy would be to find new things that would interest him and keep him there for longer periods. Hopefully this would result in success. What do you think?

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5inthesleighbed · 21/12/2009 23:20

Toilet training took my DS2 about 6 months, we started very basic.

Get him to sit on the toilet/potty after every nappy change to start with, see how he gets on. Then progress to some time with underpants, ask every 5 mins if he needs the toilet, plonk on the toilet/potty after every half an hour.

Eventually ds2 had a wee on the toilet, and then his first poo, I think I posted it on here when he done it, I was so proud.

Best of luck!

cyberseraphim · 22/12/2009 10:08

I see what you mean - more than 3 seconds is a good idea. I had the opposite problem at the outset though that DS1 was happy to sit with a TTTE book ad infinitum but was not making the connection.

mysonben · 22/12/2009 11:00

Patience, patience and more patience...
potty training took us 7 months with DS, he was 2.9 when we started, and tbh if i had known his difficulties were due to asd , i'd have been less fed up and calmer. It was intensive potty training (constant asking him 'do you want wee -wee ...?' and popping him on it every half hour) and still DS didn't get it, i was about to put him back in nappies when we had a breakthrough!

Stay calm and persevere...

Marne · 22/12/2009 11:54

We keep trying with dd2 but she doesn't seem to be ready. though yesterday she took her nappy off and then pooed on the floor , maybe that was a sign .

5inthesleighbed · 22/12/2009 11:56

lol Marne, is that wishful thinking

bubblagirl · 22/12/2009 12:13

it took ds along time at home we had him dry but if he had no pants on if he wee'd on floor we put him straight on potty and reminded he needed to wee in there

and praised for trying we had no pants or anything on bottom half for weeks then we put loose trousers or shorts no pants he soon new when to sit himself on but would never tell us he needed to go

we used to sit him on every 30 mins or so and if out we stopped in every toilet we come across never asking him just telling him to wee

one day i got small whisper i need to wee and took him to pre school in pants and he has been dry ever since he was 3.6 when dry but no poo's as yet on the toilet still tackling that his 4.8 now real phobia of that still although making small progress

still in pull ups at night also

just keep trying it will happen but patience is a big thing and i did find never asking my ds if he needed to go as he would always say no i just always took him and we had potty in every room of the house and whenever he went in that room i would point to where the potty was and say where do you go if you need a wee and he would point to potty and luckily he did nearly always go in them again no pants he couldn't tackle anything as he would normally be so engrossed in something it would be sitting on real quick

BriocheDoree · 22/12/2009 13:34

Oh, and DD really loved the book "once upon a potty". The language is a bit blah but it does actually explain the process and shows what different bits of the body should be doing:

www.amazon.co.uk/Once-Upon-Potty-Alona-Frankel/dp/1554072832/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&s=books&qid=12614888 13&sr=8-1

smallwhitecat · 22/12/2009 14:18

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BriocheDoree · 22/12/2009 14:42

Hmm, yes, my NT 2 year old does that! He's been dry for about 4 months now (NT kids are SOOOO much easier!) but still claims he needs the toilet about 3 times before bed. DD will just go to bed then realise about an hour later that perhaps she should have gone

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