Party nightmare - anyone else's ASD child vomit at smells?

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It is DS2's 4th birthday today. DS1 is already freaking out a bit because he can't take(at nearly 7)all the party build up (and lack of presents for himself).

We get to DS2's party at a local soft play centre and when they go to eat in their newly refurbished party rooms, DS1 promptly vomits.

I knew straight away that it was the smell. We had been to someone else's party there the week before and I noticed it (a paint type of smell).

The woman who runs the place was particularly unhelpful and spoke about him being overexcited and then wanted to move us out of the boat table we'd booked especially for DS2 months ago.

I had to insist we weren't moved in front of a load of DS2's nursery friends (whose parents I don't know) while DH had to go and sit out the party sorting DS1 out.

I feel stupid for not realising it would have this affect on him. Even the sight of sandwiches he doesn't like can make him sick. I felt sorry for him as things always seem to get ruined for him. He's always sick at any event, any holiday, any place new.

I felt sorry for DS2 who always half his parents with him as DS1 seems to need to be man marked.

Sorry just unloading

J gets sick at smells - cheese, mint and many others make him gag and then he can vomit if not removed. He's oversensitive to smell and noise.Sorry it went badly!

Hope your DS2 still had a good time - you were probably much more conscious of it all than DS2.

Thanks. It's just one of those things I know happens all the time so it's like a horrible feeling of 'oh no, here we go' when everyone else just thinks a child has been a bit sick.

I think DS2 did have a good time. I suppose it always feels safe when you're with friends but when you're with total strangers, you feel like you're being judged which I'm sure I wasn't. You get so used to living in your own head with these things....not always a safe place to be!

That's hard. Could he put vicks or something on, to overpower the smells?

Poor you.

DS2 has never vomitted, but refuses to eat food when we are out, and if presented with food, with continuously say he is feeling sick to avoid eating it.

S1 urgesd on smaells, and my Psych tutor at college was absolutely mesmerised by me becuase Ilimnk things with smells above all else-as I had HG when I waspg,yhis means I an vomit on the smell oflynx, sight ofacertain style ofgold shoes, sight of terracotta trousers,sound of Hit Me Baby One MOre Time song....

I am fairly sure HG was a mix of sensory stuffpreexisting and PG hormones

Wait a minute....are children with ASD more prone to vomiting/ feeling sick due to sensory stimulation? I'm v v interested and asking because I've got twin sons, one - I've written about here, who is what I'd call 'lightly touched with Asperger's.

However, his non-identical twin - who's v v different and largely 'ordinary' (if there is such a thing!) - except for some processing skills that the school are just identifying - Well, he's had a life-long tendency to vomit for loads and loads of reasons: smells he doesn't like, seeing runny noses, having a runny nose himself (still won't blow his nose as it makes him gag), thinking about eating spiders, any hard to chew, textured foods - he regularly gags up at meal times if there's too much in his mouth and he can't chew it and he's now 8 - being too hot, any illness - even non-stomach viruses, eating just a little bit too much, not having had a poo for a couple of days, seeing someone else look as if they might be sick/ being sick.... I could go on and on.

This means he vomits, even when not at all ill, about on average a couple of times in any 10 to 14 days.

His twin - who is 'lightly touched with Asps' (formal assessments said he didn't quite meet the criteria but had many of the characteristics) - will feel sick if his twin eats a cheese sandwich or hoummous sandwich nearby - but otherwise isn't actually sick nearly so often as his brother.

I know that sibs. and parents of ASD children can have similar traits (is that right...I'm still a bit new to this) - and it suddenly struck me, reading your post, that the non-Asps twin is v v affected by sensory stimuli provoking vomiting. Can anyone comment more on this?

SOlo I think thats the case, yes.

The sensory area is something that needs a lotmore study (the lead lecturer on my Uni course is an ex OT so I can sure you we are reminded of this often LOL), but apparently there is discussion aboput potentially including it somehow in the diagnostic criteria next timeaorund (2012 ifmy memory serves me)

My ASD son doesn't do "sensory sicking" but his older brother who's a bit trait-y is that way inclined as I believe their dad used to be.

DS doesn't actually vomit but he gags a lot at mealtimes, he is so so picky with his food, re: tastes and textures.
He regularly starts to cry (proper tears not crocodiles ones) and gags and ends up spitting his food on the floor if we try to make him something he won't have.
I myself have always been very sensitive with smells (a total horror when i was pregnant!), still now 9 times out of 10 , i get up and all the smells of the house make me feel sick, even toothpaste does it! Paint smells, baby's nappy, cat food, deodorant mist... the list is long.
When it's really bad i have to run to the back door to get a few breaths of fresh air to cut out the offending smell.
(DH always think i'm exagerating but sadly i'm not)