Do your get the fact that there is more than just one in the family??

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Just got back from center parcs with dds. DD1 seemed so much worse this year, and having huge paddies as she could not get her way, di what she wanted to do all the time.
I guess previous holidays have been a lot more based round her as this was the first year dd2 could join in a lot, and also we had a group of friends there that we made plans with.
I lost count of the amount of times I said "there is more than you in the family, and we have to do things others like too".

Was so lovely to be away, but please tell me it gets easier.

Hope your all well btw

Dd1 (almost 6) is just the same, she would be the perfect only child, no consideration for others, if she wants to do something every one else has to join in (even if they don't want to).

DS is 4, and has huge tantrums as soon as we want to do something that is not on his agenda.
He is the most lovely child so long as he does what he wants, but when others are involved it goes pear-shaped.
Each day it's a battle to make him realise that others count too. DS is always saying stuff like: 'B (himself) want chugginton dvd, Amy (his little sister) want chugginton dvd' or 'B like space rocket, mummy like space rocket, daddy like space rocket'... he just doesn't grasp the fact that others may not want or like what he likes.
But DS is still only 4, so maybe in a few of years he will 'get it'... hopefully!!! Unless that is one part of asd that he will struggle with for a long time...?

Not to burst your bubble, but my 11yo DD still isn't out of the 'it's ok as long as it's my way' stage yet. Nor is my 6yo DS2. My poor 7yo DS1(NT) gets sooooo fed up with it, he used to just give in for a quiet life, but now he's really starting to kick off about how his brother and sister never take HIS thoughts into consideration, it's always him that has to. Just wish I could get him his own room so he got a break from it...

I have the same problem i have ds1 wanting his own way and ds2 and 3 both wanting their own ways it is a nightmare at times all 3 boys would be ideal only children to! I feel for my poor dd1 she gives in and lets the boys do what they want to do all the time we make lots of effort to do extra one on one things with her as it is hard for her having 4 siblings with special needs. x

Oh goodness yesssss, ds1is exactly like this!.yesterday we were going out with friends to their house, and he annopunced mid afternoon we weren't going: no childcare would ahve meant I couldn't go either so it took us hours to persuade him and when that didn't work wepractically shoe horned him into the car- he just didn't get it at all.

DS3 is the same I guess but becuase of him being moresevere he doesn't express it verbally, he just doesn't do.Ever.I'velost count of the timeswe'vetried to get the others on board with something like helping to clear up and they've refused after a minute because ofds3's complete shutdown on being reuqested to do anything outside of his routine and personal wishes. DS2 made him carry a shoe to the rack yesterday (under fear of reduced club penguin time) and that caused major tears.

Jammi,that's what we do with ds2- lots of 1-1 time,trips out for cake when he starts to show he is struggling etc. Will start doing with ds4 when he is old enough as well.