OMG OMG THEY SAID YES

[SantaWears2shoes]

to increasing dd's respite a year by
14 nights

Well done

Excellent result

That's a result. I'm guessing I won't be seeing you at DS's respite place then?!

brilliant news

Thats great news for you. 2Shoes what age did you start sending DD to respite?

no DD
I have told the SW that if they move dd she will be at home full time!!!
I would love to come with you when you got to look in the new year though.

Mitchell81 she was 6, she got respite early due to a child p[rotection sitution that happened with her link family(I think SS thought I might sue)

never really asked her, you have to be careful, my friends son used to say he hated it and question her love for him, just cos she sent him!
tbh dd has respite because I need it, it makes me a better mum at the end of a day, if she was nt she would go for sleep overs and stuff like that, but of course she can't.

Brilliant 2shoes!

it is never easy, but when dd comes home I am always so happy and she now enjoys respite.

when dd was 6 she only went about once a month, we have increased it slowly over the years. it is only now at 14 1/2 that she goes 2 days a week and manages it.

Well done! I hope you enjoy it and have a good break.

Riven, we tried a foster carer but she found dd2 too difficult to manage even though she had a hoist, so now we have respite at a centre where they take 4 kids at a time. The have all the facilities, a sensory room, lots of toys and craft activities, and I tell dd2 that she is going to stay to play.

dd2 has to understand that its not optional for her - and as 2shoes says, it also makes me a far better mum.

i agree, I have never given dd the option, I have met her needs(she hated it when I put her in for a friday and asturday night, so I stopped it) but at the end of the day, she is the child and I am the parent.

Thanks, will she go two consecutive nights or will they be separated? I know you are lucky in that it is at her school. It must make such a difference to have somewhere like that to go to.

I couldn't imagine sending my DD somewhere I don't know. Which would be the case if we wanted respite.

2 weeks a month its tues/weds night and 2 weeks weds/fri night
so not every week will be consecutive nights so wuite nice for her.

Happy Christmas!

Well done 2Shoes.

Mitchell, our dd1 goes to a foster carer 1 night per month, we were reluctant at first, but the foster family are some of the loveliest people we have ever met, and dd1 has been going 2 years this month.