Some of you know DS is 4 , has speech and languague delay, mild asd verbal dx.
DS is going to a language group two mornings a week (since early november), as well as 3 afternoons to a mainstream nursery (since age 2).
I'm ... the salt and teachers at the unit, say about DS "we have no trouble getting him to do all activities , he is interested in everything, he enjoys playing with the other children, he simply has a bit of trouble sharing at times but ALL kids are like that at that age, we haven't seen any behaviours at all which may suggest an asd it is 'pure language ' issues!" (i'd be so happy to hear this if only it was true!)
At his ms nursery, teacher says " he only responds half of the time when spoken to, his speech has improved a bit, it is also clearer, and he will spontanously talk to me about stuff that interest him (i do agree with this), but he still play alone in the same way most of the time, struggles hugely with sharing, screams and tantrums when other children interfer with his play, he still observes them and needs an adult to introduce him and guide him into shared games, he frequently imitates the others as opposed to playing interactively, he still doesn't like table activities and messy play"
At home, it 's a hit and miss with what response we get from him, he stims a fair bit, his rituals are going strong atm, and he is quite challenging.
I simply don't understand , i know the fact that there are only 5 kids there with him at the unit atm and that must play a part. Still, either he behaves in a total different way at the unit, or they are feeding me a load of rubbish, it's like they are not talking about the same child!
I intend to go and stay for a session after the xmas break to see for myself.
I'm a bit stuck because they don't keep asd children at the unit, i say nothing to them about his 'other side' as i don't want to rattle the cage too much and cause him to lose his place.
On the other hand with the referal to cahms for asd dx assesments looming in the spring , i'm worried in case the unit reports they have no concerns over asd at all, and DS is absolutely fine apart from a speech delay (which is untrue!)...[worried]
Sorry long post (as usual) , but as anyone else experienced this ?