My 11yo DD has a number of different needs, and I have been trying since she was 4yo to get a 'proper' diagnosis, but keep hitting brick walls in the medical profession. Her first dx was at 7mo of 'low muscle tone'. At 18mo she was dxd speech delayed, GDD, hypermobility syndrome and partial deafness. At 4.2 she was dxd asd. After 8 yrs of me bugging the doctors that it wasn't right for a child to 'blank out' and also get blue lips hands and feet when running around, she was dxd with 2 faulty heart valves that will need replacing (at some point in the next 4 yrs, depending how far they can stretch it, if they can they want to get her to 16 for the surgery, so they only have to do it once, but that may not be possible) and then a dx of epilepsy on top. When she was 4.2 her paed at the time got her tested for 'fragile X' but the results were negative. At 10 she was seen by a geneticist who refused to listen to me, or to do any genetic tests. Is it soooo unreasonable of me as a mother to want to know what's wrong with her?? My DS1 is NT, but my DS2 has every dx she has except the heart and epilepsy, but has chronic asthma instead. Why will no-one take me seriously, and test until they find out what her condition is? I know it won't change what's wrong, and is unlikely to offer a 'solution', but at least I wouldn't feel like I'M the insane one. AND I'd be more likely to get her help at school, as without a solid dx, she gets next to bugger all nothing, and has been stuck in MS where she doesn't belong. Any advice?