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[devientenigma]

If your child was kicking and screaming not to do something do you make them???

DEPENDS WHAT (oops) it is, if it is something that doesn't matter, then no, if it is somthing they have to do like shool or medicine, then ys I would.

Yes I make him, as otherwise he learns that to kick and scream gets him out of doing stuff he doesn't like. Of course, within reason...ie if it's a tiny thing which isn't worth the fight, then I wouldn't but if it's a big thing which will make my life hell longer term (eg he has to learn : dinner first, then chocolate or ice cream)

Depends what it is really.
If it is something the whole family are doing, and DS2 is adamant he doesn't want to do it, I either try get him to do it or try and involve him in some way.
If it is something I know that I know will put him into major meltdown, I just don't bother, as its not worth the hassle and the upset.

Its worth going through the pain barriers when they are young. My 14 year old DS cannot be picked up! At first he needed reinforcement, then he learnt to comply because we had developed a relationship and he wanted to do what I asked him. But there are still times when he won't do something and it takes patience and a bit of time! He is still willing to do things if I ask him although I have to work a bit harder at it now but I put that down partly to him being a teenager. I do think that, without a foundation of ABA when he was young, I'd be in real trouble trying to manage him.

You do have to pick your fights worth fighting - and bear in mind that some behaviours would be very hard to deal with by the time dd2 is 12 and bigger than me!