how do you deal with this?

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DD1 is nearly 7 and today was a very bad day. The moment she got home it had clearly been a bad day. She was saying she was stupid, hitting herself, crying over every little thing. We would settle her from one thing but then something else would set her off. She has the school panto tomorrow, and i think a lot of it is worrying about that tbh. but other than talking though and trying to cuddle (she was too busy stimming) i just dont know what else to do.

Maybe of someone on here has some tips we could try, as we get nothing from anyone else!

wentr thoughthe "i can see your upset" "les talk" ect ect, was calm but she went o bed in tears, this went on for hours, and certainly worse day yet!

poor dd.

ds hates cuddles, so our OT recommended gentle squeezes progressing up his arms and legs to calm him down. Might be easier than trying hugging if she is busy stimming?

We often get this problem with dd1 (AS) . I usually end up crying with her because nothing i can say or do can make her feel better.

Dd1 seems to have been extra stressed over the past 2 weeks (run up to x-mas), she keeps telling me she's upset but she doesn't know why, the more i question her the worse she gets.

The one thing that has helped dd1 (since she was 3) is using worry dolls, this started after reading the book 'Silly Billy', she tells the dolls her worries and puts them under her pillow before bed and they sort out her worries whilst she's asleep (or so she believes).

I hope your dd has a better day today.

I do think they need to find a way to express their upsets- ds1 can't do it verbally (plenty ofspeech just no good at that aspect) so writes it down in a little diary.

but you know, with this kind of overlaod IME there'sa fair chance your dd doesn't really know what is upsetting her anyway- that seems to be part and parcelof it IYSWIM, ds1 reaches a point where it's not got adirect cause but is a sheer- well- overload.

Hope she feels better today.

this book has quite alot of ideas in it that might help?

thanks ladies. today isntmuch better. She cried when i collected her because we couldnt go to the school shop. then paniced as we walked a different way home, then paniced because she said she has had to go to a different class during singing practice to a class teacher she hates. i then made the mistake of saying well in jrs Mrs H wont be there. Well that was a can of worms. She said she needed to know who her teacher was next year, needed to know class ect ect. She is now on the PC next to me writing about her day. Seems to help a little.
God I suck at this!