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DS the only child at Playgroup not to get a Christmas card.

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MarioandLuigi · 08/12/2009 19:29

Obviously he isnt bothered because he has very little care for the other children and has no concept of Christmas, but I am so for him. I know I shouldnt worry but it was just so sad.

It comes straight after I got so worked up when we had been to see Santa - he was asked what he wanted for Christmas and as he has a severe speech delay he couldnt understand what was being asked, or say what he wanted.

I really need a thicker skin, but it just seems to be one thing after another at th moment.

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linglette · 08/12/2009 19:46

oh I'm sorry. How old is he?

5inthesleighbed · 08/12/2009 19:47

fishie · 08/12/2009 19:50

who gave out the cards? that's really not on.

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MarioandLuigi · 08/12/2009 19:50

He is nearly three. I know its not a massive deal to him, and my DH told me I should get a life, but his speech delay is becoming more noticable now as he is getting older because other people who dont know him expect him to speak IYSWIM.

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Sparkletastic · 08/12/2009 19:51

Very for you but as you say he probably won't be bothered so try and hang onto that. How is the playgroup, staff etc. My DD2 has SN and the staff are wonderful and really supportive and have helped her build a close friendship with another child despite my DDs speech, hearing and understanding issues. They facilitate her relationships with the other children too so that many of them see DD as their friend even though she doesn't have much interaction with them IYSWIM. Is your DS generally happy there?

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MarioandLuigi · 08/12/2009 19:52

Basically at the Playgroup they have a postbox where all the cildren put thier cards, then at the end of the day when they are singing songs, one child is elected to give out all the cards. When I picked DS2 up, all the other children in the cirlce were clutching cards except him. I know he isnt a very sociable child, he doesnt interact at all with the others but I though he might get a few, even if they were just from the children who were keen enough to end them to all the children, especially as the playgroup gave out a list of all the children so that Mums could remember all the names.

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MarioandLuigi · 08/12/2009 19:54

Sparkletastic - the playgroup are fab, they too have tried to encourage a friendship with a lovely little girl because my DS is very small for his age, and they are about the same size. They are very flexible and help him to try and intergrate by talking to the other children how DS2 would if he could.

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Sparkletastic · 08/12/2009 19:56

Very ill thought out system and shame on those other mums given that they had a list. I'm currently stressing about whether to send cards to nursery kids as DD2 can't say the names of everyone that she wants to give a card to - you've galvanised me to ask for a list tomorrow!

linglette · 08/12/2009 19:59

Oh yes nearly 3 is a hard age. My son wouldn't have understood either at that age.

sodit · 08/12/2009 20:09

probably silly question but did you check he had any? ds1 just opens his has a quick look then leaves them in a pile with the envelopes
he would not sit there clutching them, after all there not very interesting

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MarioandLuigi · 08/12/2009 20:12

I did check with his key-worker and she said no. If he had any he wouldnt have been able to open them but he might have tried to eat them (we are going through a paper stage atm )

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sickofsocalledexperts · 08/12/2009 20:44

I have 2 kids and 2 step kids and any mother worth a dime knows that - particularly at this age when no-one really has "special friends" - you get the class list and send a cheap and cheerful card to everyone on the list, written by mum of course. Either there has been some kind of cock-up with the list, or these mums are morons. Either way, don't stress but make sure to send every single one of their kids a card to make them feel doubly guilty! The only exception to the "send everyone in the class a card" rule in my book is if you think they are very religious and might not like to receive a card from another religion - that is always a tricky one to negotiate. Is it possible they think that, here's me trying to be charitable to them?? I have an autistic son in mainstream, and live in terror of him being left out (eg for party invites) but I find that if I myself ask the whole class to his party, they all just have to invite him back! Sending a virtual card to your DS from mine!

2shoes · 08/12/2009 21:17

would it help if some of us sent him a card?

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MarioandLuigi · 08/12/2009 21:39

2Shoes - what a lovely though, but its not him thats fussed, its me, and I know I am being silly, but I cant help it.

Its just been one of those hormonal days

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busybeingmum · 08/12/2009 22:21

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