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Feeling really miserable - DS behaviour is getting worse

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jackny · 04/12/2009 21:55

My DS is 3.8 yrs (ASD). He was really easy as a baby and toddler up to 2.9yrs and then his behaviour has gradually got more and more difficult!! Ironically as his speech has improved his behaviour has deteriorated. DS has always had difficulties with loud noises but now added to this he has tactile issues. He enjoys playing with water and sand which is fine. He also enjoys playing with poo, urine and toilets. Today when I turned up at Preschool to collect him I was informed that he had been playing in the toilets. Apparently, he had put a whole load of toys down the loo and then turned the taps on. The sinks have no plugs so DS made round balls of toilet paper to block the sinks! The sinks then overflowed and DS was having a whale of a time!!! I just cringed with embarrassment - what can you say.

DS refuses to co-operate with adults and is very much on his own agenda. His key worker says that he lies down when they try and put his coat on. If they change routine at all he becomes anxious and has a 'melt-down'. I wrongly thought things were at last settling down at Pre-school. They had all been very positive at the Parents' evening despite his problems. I feel so down and don't really know what to do for the best. DS is due to start school in Sept 2010 and I am dreading it!! I can see school will be ringing me up all the time to 'inform' (complain) about his behaviour.

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mysonben · 04/12/2009 22:47

Hugs to you...
It's hard to remain serene and calm when we hear teachers saying 'he is done this ! he 's done that!'...but try not to take it to heart, where were the nursery staff whislt your ds was up to mischief in the toilets! ???
I'd be a bit cross if they came to me to complain about stuff like this , they are suppose to watch our kids after all!
My ds ,4, has asd, he can be very challenging at home and nursery (quite bad atm actually too you're not alone althought that won't be much help i know), but they know he has difficulties and are supposed to employ strategies like visual timetable, lots of pre-warning, specific praise,... which i suspect they don't always.
Have they made any plan in place to support your ds in nursery and to help for when he starts school?

othermother · 04/12/2009 23:39

Could it be anything to do with the fact that it's winter now and he doesn't get as much chance to run around outside? know my ds gets far worse in winter....I put it down to being cooped up more.

You have my sympathy.

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