Please help, my LA has learning difficulties

[2ChildrenPlusLA]

What should I do?

They don't seem to be able to concentrate, they get distracted easily and have very odd manerisms. I have a ds with ASD, and an NT dd, but my LA is by far the most challenging.

It bites and displays bullying behaviour.

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I think someone has name changed!

Mine are like a mother-in-law, IN DENIAL!

Dear 2chldrenplusLA

Your LA's behaviour may be describes as challenging but don't you find it's the lying that is hardest to cope with?

That, coupled with obstination, prevarication and procrastination.

Also, my LA has a tendency to not want to put any of it's pocket-money to fund very good causes.

In short, it's acting like a poilt brat!

I'd like to put my LA over my knee and give hit a hearty smack on the bottom.

I don;t think it's the way you are parenting yours that's the cause of your troubles - I think the problem is nationwide.

I hate to break the news to you but there is no cure for LA's. They are very, very sick, full of pustules and pox.

Yes, the lying is terrible, but also the tantrums.

I'm at the end of my tether. So often, we sit down and have a talk and I explain what is acceptable behaviour and what isn't, and LA agrees, and makes promises and I think we're all set and then......

It's like we never even had that chat, and sometimes it is far worse because of it.

light bulb lights up.

What's worse is that their behaviour is disrupting the education of my children.

[sigh] have you tried he naughty step yet? remember 1 minute for each year of age.

TBH I would just ask for them to be permanently excluded. No one should have to put with with this level of disruption

Can you believe what they just told me 3 minutes ago?

There is no specific hours of 1:1 in my ds' proposed statement because they are following the recommendations of the Lamb enquiry, and stating provision rather than hours.

I reckon they are very SLD. They certainly seem to attend an institution with plenty of arts and crafts, leisure breaks and nice cups of tea.

I am trying to permenanty exlude them but you have to build a case first, and show that you have given them every opportunity to change, be accommodated etc!

Sounds like LA is stuck at 'Own Agenda' stage. Does it like playing with dangerous toys ?

LOL, - doesn't like to share. That's for sure. And memory is a big problem. ALso, it is quite clear that all the different parts of the brain are not wired up to each other very well at all.

Nah - dangerous toys? - ours is a wimp with a bad case of echolia.

The left hand doesn't know what the right hand is doing.

Think it must be complext SLD to include SPD and there is definately ASD in there. Probably the opposite of ADHD though.

Do you think a programme of ABA would help, - you know a bit of dog training?

I find that the best tip for a problematic LA is establishing a very firm sense of who is in control (hopefully that would be you).

Restraint techniques (eg mentioning tribunals, regular referral to the DDA)

Developing a firm notion of ranking in terms of knowledge (reiteration of I know my child helps)

and most importantly the combination of a goo SOH and access to wine.

Develop links with a support group for parents such as yourself (also known as an MP / AM) can be beneficial.

Oh another common symptom of LA syndrome is they only have visual learning.

takemn to its most effective extreme, that means they should only be communicated with in writing- such as email and letter.

Voice communication is as inefective as waving a handkercheif with the message on vaguely in their direction.

there is another way of motivating them: the KMA technique.

Email the line manager of themost useful one (digm there's often one) and mention how wonderful they ahve been.

Sadly it works.

(Disclaimer:whilst i certianly suffer with all the above LA afflictions as many will know, there is a great chap at ours who really seems to work well with us. Just not the others, sadly, they are as effective asa palster on a head amputation)

My LA seems to have some kind of auditory processing disorder - of the most severe type. I thought at first they had a hearing disability - but it is very specific so cannot be. They misunderstand things and get confused - I dont like to say they lie because I am uncertain they understand the difference between true and false.

Ah just realised 2children we are talking of the same LA I suspect!

magso You are my LA twin?

Do we know the cause yet? Do we know the cure? Is there any treatment or is there no hope at all?

And more to the point, will I still be having these problems with them in 5/10/15 years?

Do not know about a cure but I think there has been some progress lately!

are you really in the same LA?