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[phlebas]

ABA is REALLY stressful.

It is hard having tutors in our tiny house, it's hard keeping the other children out of the way. When ds is uncooperative & just wants me it a) breaks my heart b) makes me wince at the £££ lost on a bad session. The financial burden is massive - we're doing far fewer hours than we should do because of the cost - which leads me to question if there is any point in doing the hours we are.

He is making progress but is that because of ABA? We don't do any table top - all NET. He is still massively avoidant, with limited instructional control. We've given up doing anything like a traditional programme

(hiding upstairs with the baby while listening to ds screaming at his tutor and dh trying to stop him running away)

What is NET ?

sorry I hate all the acronyms natural environment training - slipping the work into play & normal routine (e.g. park, play doh etc) rather than having discrete work time.

Oh I see well we do that too and it's fine but at an earlier age (he's 5 now) it could be tough to engage DS1 - not for the reasons you mention but just autistic shut off from the world. There are various schools of thought - ABA tries to break through the wall, other approaches emphasise following the child's lead - but this too can be frustrating if the child seems to be leading you down the road to nowhere. I found Hanen used in the right way to be a good compromise and I did some VB work too so you don't need to shut yourself off from ABA - but I am happy to mix and match, others may feel differently.