I get four nights a week night care for dd aged 11 as husband not here then. both dds (11 and 13) sleep a long way from my room in our railway carriage shaped bungalow. Care agency has a lot of trouble fulfilling these nights and I usually do not get the full four nights. They have found a male nurse and asked me my opinion. I have said I will meet him before I decide. My worry is probably completely, totally and utterly unfounded, but ,,,, I worry not about disabled dd but other one; what if he were to go into her room at night, alarm her in any way, I would not hear a thing. She sleeps like a typical teenage log; i am debating swopping rooms on nights where this bloke might come but would slightly defeat the object because I would not sleep properly as would awake every time dd2 needed assistance. I know i am being somewhat unreasonable but to what extent? In hospital we never worry if nurses are male or female but here at home things would be very different, very quiet. I do need these nights but at dd1's risk? I do not really trust myself to make a proper decision as I do so need the care. Help!!