Do you ever resent the constant "interference' of your life?

[MavisEnderby]

I write this having answered a silly thread on the main board about ironing!I said that I tried to tidy and iron because we have carers in(Who are lovely) and felt I wanted to be seen as "coping" and keeping on top of things and so on.It is sort of to do with having strangers involved with all aspects of your life.I don't resent it as such and am glad of the help but sometimes it feels like an intrusion on what is normal family life.I dunno,prob not making sense but does anyone relate to this?

I know exactly how you feel.

I HATE having to have so many people in and out of my house. Ed Psychs, teachers form school to help dd1 settle, our ABA consultant, and worst of all (and then I feel bad because it is obviously doing dd1 so much good) ABA tutors.

Every afternoon I have someone come in and teach dd1 on a 1-to-1 programme.

This is great as dd1 gets so much fromm it, but I hate the fact my house is taken over. The tutors are fabulous, and don't make me feel in the way, but I have to keep dd2 out of the way, dd2 screams to play with the tutors and dd1, there isn't an area of the ouse that I can guarantee will be untouched (I could change this, but it is good for dd1 to use different rooms etc) and I just feel so hassled by it all.

Not to mention the pressure to empty/fill dishwasher, tidy up the ironing pile etc.

It is all in a good cause

I notice it really when I realise just how few people are 'involved' with DS2 - It makes you see how abnormal your life is ! I feel the pressure to tidy up too.

im with you here, i spend the whole morning cleaning and tidying so that the house will look good when dd family support worker calls in the afternoon, i know its good for dd but sometimes you just wanna put your feet up and enjoy your family. also keeping the other 2 kids out of the way is a nightmare. suppose it would be a lot worse if no one was helping. seems like im never happy

Completely agree!!

Thats one of the reasons why we rejected the idea suggested by the SS of morning agency carers: I couldn't cope with a stranger in my house at getting-up time. One day when dd2 gets too big for me to manage I'll have to accept it. Does that make me one of the people criticised on the other thread for not accepting help?

OH YES we have our nurse , salt, physio, deitation ss as well as ds lot coming in and i said last week dd life as been taken out of our hands she can not stop with anyone unless they have cpr, and been signed of how to feed her also was told last week we give her little bits to try and eat, well now if she chokes been told we could go to court if some thing happens as been told to hold of giving her lumps but she wants to try and we are very careful.