Do you see any ASD in your DP/DH?

[lordreid]

The more I've read about ASD, the more I can see these traits in DH. He has no friends, always seemed to miss an 'empathy gene' in the sense that he is really bad at reading people and situations. He can be really bad at having to respond to something at work e.g. explaining to his boss that he has to do x,y, or z at home so will have to go early. He can never understand why I'm stressed even when you look at the context e.g. busy week, work deadlines, problems with kids. He sometimes just seems bemused by emotions.

Also, he listens to me talk (alot) but never really responds with anything. He's completely unable to provide refelective listening or constructive suggestions about a problem.

He's never once looked at anything on ASD in the ten months we've been undergoing this process. He leaves everything to me.

I have tentatively suggested parallels. It went down like a lead balloon .

However, I think it explains alot of what we argue about.

Any thoughts

Another yes here! DP has genius IQ, from a long line of Eastern European scientists, no small talk, very funny without meaning to be at times and chose to reject academia to be a builder. Mind you he concentrates hard at it and has ended up a darn good one...albeit one that listens to VERY loud radio 3 on the job! Makes his clients smile.

Hahah writing it all down - suddenly it all makes sense Moi? I'm just arty farty

Leonie, I'm guessing different health authorities follow different protocols. I'm wondering if the routine testing is only usually in boys, since they only have the one X chromosome?

I can see no as in my dh (though that doesn't mean I can't see a lot of dh in ds1-they look identical for a start and have the same facial expressions), but my fil certainly has as traits - he has great empathy with ds1 because life makes him incredibly anxious too! Fil's niece and great niece have aspects too. No one as obvious as ds1, but it's still clear where it's come from. It's made me feel better to trace it back because it makes me feel like ds is not an anonmaly rather he is at the heart of this lovely family who all care about him.

everytime i see ds - i think his a little me, so more from my side than DH. trying to work out if he is or not, or a funny miserable so and so. very organised though unlike me. Read today - Tony Attwood said in a conf: A lot of men with AS end up marrying women with high social I.Q's. These women tend to be nurses, teachers, social workers, etc. just wondering...

also my dad is an aspie, and nephew the opposite end of the spectrum.

I never really thought about it before I had DS but my dad is definately bordering AS I am sure. My DH has traits which include hoarding and collecting. These are the things that drive me mad the most and the best examples include every single football match programme he has been to (twice a week for over 20 years!) so you can imagine the loft!! I have found him hoarding coffee jar labels in case a promotion comes along, beer bottle tops put in a box at the back of the cupboard and countless raffle tickets that he hadn't won on. Theres loads more examples but I won't bore you .

Me? Perfect of course