Ds is 6 he has a diagnosis of HFA, is statemented and has SALT and OT input. He is mainstream and doing ok but doesn't really like school, though he has settled quite well this term. I have posted about him quite a few times before under various names, I like a change every couple of months .
My In laws are back from living abroad and everytime they come to visit I am closely questioned about ds and his diagnosis, all the while with a sceptical air and expression. The conversation always goes the same way, questions about what it means to have HFA, how it manifests itself and then ends with "well I am afraid I just can't see it." There are usually a few "examples" of how well ds did something or interacted with other kids when they were with him.
A bit of background is that when concerns were first raised and I tried to pursue a diagnosis exh was very unsupportive and basically accused me of attention seeking and wanting ds to have autism so I personally could get lots of attention from people. I think he must have said the same to his family at the time, although he denies this. He realises now that ds does have HFA and is a great dad and very supportive.
It is getting me down a bit really. I know that the majority of his family think I am making it up and think that I must be a bit strange for wanting to do so, they don't even bother to try to hide that they feel like this. I am quite scared that I am going to just lose it and flare up at them one day. Any thoughts or advice or one sentence shutting up statements would be gratefully appreciated.